Am I being too harsh? I (21F) started dating my Bf (24M) 7months ago. Everything has gone perfect. He’s so sweet to me does the most thoughtful gestures without me asking. Says all the right things and I really do love him. The only issue is we really don’t have sex enough for me. We also only see each other once or twice a week ( granted it we normally spend the whole day together when we do see each other). Which I’ve come to terms with because I’m super busy anyways. But it’s been two weeks since we’ve had sex and that’s just way too long for me it makes me feel unwanted. I mean I will say typically we have sex once a week and the sex is really good sometimes. But other times it’s just really quick and I never feel satisfied. When we first got together he would have sex with me a lot and multiple times in one night if it was too quick before. He has been having some health issues with his downstairs region and I’ve tried to be understanding but I don’t know how much longer I can put up with it. He also has mental health issues as do I and he is under constant stress and I feel like that along with the stress of what’s going on with his downstairs region is causing him to avoid it but I don’t know how to fix this issue. It feels like it’s putting a wedge between us.
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Obviously you can’t fix that issue for him. I’m asking you to please be understanding and patient with him. He’s under a lot of stress and not feeling well healthwise. It’s not like he’s choosing this on purpose you know. You’ve gotta to support him in a way that you can, and once he’s doing better, then other things will come naturally. You can do whatever you want of course. That’d just be my advice.