We met about 7 years ago, and became very close friends soon after. I developed a crush on her too, but didn’t act because I never knew how to tell if girls were into me. At the time, it was just a close friendship. I helped her through a breakup, she helped me through a breakup. Life went on.
We saw a couple movies in theaters together in 2019, didn’t lead to anything. I thought we might’ve gotten together in 2020 after she invited me twice to game nights (just us two) at her house, after which I decided she wasn’t into me, and that it would be healthy to – amicably – get her out of my life. We slowly stopped hanging out nearly as much as before.
I couldn’t stop thinking about her, so I decided to unfollow her and remove her as a follower everywhere in 2022. It worked for my. But 5ish months passed and she re-followed me everywhere. I was conflicted, but missed her so I followed her back. We talked a few times over text over the following year, just casually. In 2024, I went to a concert she hosted at her place. During one of her songs, we locked eyes for 20-30 seconds straight while she sang, and I was overwhelmed – I tunnel-visioned, forgot what song she was singing, and felt stuck in my seat when it ended. I questioned whether it was even real, but now I’m pretty sure it wasn’t just in my head. We talked in a group after, but it was a bit awkward and short. We hadn’t even texted since –
Now, she knows I work and work out at our local climbing gym, which she came to last week with another old mutual friend. We hung out and talked for a bit, and she got a membership there the same day. I’ve seen her there twice since, and we’ve climbed together both times.
Finally: I don’t know if people use music intentionally on posts/stories, but I have noticed the last few stories she’s posted have songs: Carnival by The Cardigans, Look for Me (I’ll be Around), and The Man I Love – (specifically, “One day he’ll come along, the man I love, and he’ll be big and strong, the man I love.”) I mention because they just seem very lovey-dovey to me and I know she’s single at the moment.
TL;DR – We’ve been apart for a long time, but our most recent interactions make me wonder whether she’s attracted to me. Suddenly, she’s very much back in my life.
How am I supposed to know if any of this is intentional and she’s trying to get something started, or if I’m overthinking all of it? Moving forward, is there a way I should act to try and better figure it out?