I (21M) have been in a relationship with my gf(21F) for close to seven months now.She is a good patner in the sense that she is supportive, ambitious,clean, understanding and i trust her 100%.The relationship has not been great throughout the 7 months.I have had issues with her communication, emotional maturity, reciprocating my energy and avoiding the difficult conversations to the point at which she prefers leaving in the night to having them.I have tried to guide her on how I would love for us to handle the issues but there has been little change for the period that we have dated.What should I do?
TL;DR, My gf having issues in communication issues in the relationship.How should I handle it
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It’s ok to break up with her. You don’t sound compatible.
You should call it and move on.
If the relationship is not making your life better, if it’s not helping you to move toward the future that you want to live in, then end it.
This is what dating is for (at least if you are looking for something long-term): to be together long enough for the New Relationship Smell to wear off, so that you can see the other person for who she actually is, and decide whether that’s a person you want to continue to be with.
It sounds like she’s not.
So there’s no reason to drag this out any longer.
If she won’t work on things then you should walk. Look into the future and imagine her behaviour over actually big things like kids, careers, house buying.
Does that sound fun?
The upside is that you’re both really young and she will probably mature and improve on these things, only you can decide if her qualities make it worth the opportunity cost of finding others when you’re young and at your peak attractiveness.
I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. I had a similar situation with my ex when we were both in our early 20s. I felt like I was always trying to balance being supportive and figuring out what I needed from the relationship too. It’s tough, especially when you’re just starting to realize that your priorities might be shifting. For me, I learned that it’s important to take a step back and really think about what you need long-term, and if the relationship is helping you grow. It’s not always easy, but it’s key to be honest with yourself and with her. Sometimes taking a break or having that honest conversation can bring more clarity than you think.