I’ve been close friends with someone for about 3 years. It started when she had a huge crush on me, but that never turned into a relationship. We moved past it and stayed really good friends for nearly two years, we talked daily from “good morning” to “good night.” We were emotionally close and had great communication.
But lately, it feels like that connection has completely disappeared. If they message me and I reply, they leave me on seen. If I don’t reply, they eventually reach out and ask why I’m ignoring them then go quiet again. If I don’t initiate any conversation, they still check in after a while, but their responses feel dry or cold. Meanwhile, I see them active and chatting in other group chats and with mutual friends. Like she wants to talk and don’t at the same time. i asked her abt it and she pretended nothing happened and blames it on me. Just wanted to know if they didnt want to talk. we live on the same street, work at the same place too, hard to ignore.
This pattern has left me feeling confused and mentally drained. I’m not sure how to interpret their behavior or what they actually want out of this friendship anymore. Has anyone been through something similar? What helped you decide whether to hold on or walk away? and how do u do itt????
TL;DR : lose friend of 3 years suddenly distant and inconsistent, leaving me confused and hurt. Need advice on whether to keep trying or move on. Ik shes not interested romantically