To give some context, my girlfriend and I haven been together for almost 2 years now, we’re in a long distance relationship and we usually meet 2 to 3 times a month. Because of that, doing the deed has become a regular thing for us when we meet. Unfortunately, I overestimated myself and just relied to the “pull out method”. Spoiler, it doesn’t fucking work. ðŸ˜
Flash forward today, we just literally found out that she’s 6 months pregnant. We never realized she’s pregnant cuz she never felt any symptoms and we disregarded the fact that she’s not having her period anymore. We have already discussed this with her parents, and our main priority is my partner’s safety because of her heart condition (forgot to mention this, sorry). We’re now doing the necessary checkups to check my partner and the baby. My main problem is I haven’t told my parents yet, and I don’t know how I’ll even bring this up to them.
99.9% sure that they’ll be really unhappy with the news especially that we have plans for me to go back to college while I have my full time job right now. I’m certain that it won’t be the plan anymore after they find out about this and they’ll be disappointed for sure.
Now I’m here, and I still have no idea how to tell them what happened. I don’t know what to do and I’m completely at a lost right now. What I’m sure of is I’m not gonna abandon my partner and our child, I’m certain of that.
I need help, how should I tell this to my parents? How should I open this up to them?
TLDR: I got my partner pregnant and I don’t know how to tell my parents.
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Be honest. Wishing you and your family the absolute best.
It’s hard to give much more advice than being honest. I know that’s not super helpful. I think they should be proud that they have raised a man that is stepping up for his family.
Sometimes with these things, they’re shocked or upset at first, but kids have a funny way of giving everyone perspective.
Accidents happen, plans change – and people love you anyway.
Sack up and be a great dad.
It’s overwhelming now, but it’s amazing how naturally being a parent comes.
It is hard work, but you’ll be fine
Congratulations brah…they maybe surprised or even disappointed but after 10 seconds they’ll realize how much of a blessing that baby truly is…….be brave and tell your loving parents.
You’re going to be a parent. Very soon. It no longer matters what your parents, or anyone else thinks. Your top priority is your child. Your parents will be happy or they won’t, whatever. You have more important things to worry about. Where will you live? How will you support a family? All those much bigger questions.
Having said that, I was 6 months pregnant when I found out, and mate, you are in for some awkward conversations. People will assume your GF is stupid, fat, lying, trapping you, etc. Be prepared to politely shut that nonsense down – “that’s my partner you’re talking about, and if you can’t be respectful, be quiet.”
12 weeks is not very long to figure out all the logistics of parenting, especially when you are long distance. Keep talking to your GF, and be prepared to step up and support her. Good luck.
I don’t habe any experience with this, but maybe you should tell the news not both parents at once but each of them separately. Start with the parent who is more likely to stay cool. Maybe he or she will then even help you calm down the other parent.
When it comes to college, I would consider one that offers distance learning. I would, however, not start this year.
I am more concerned about your age gap. So you’ve been together for 2 years so when you both started dating you were 19 (still in college i believe) and she was 25 with a job. I know you’re an adult but still I am giving you both a side eye 👀
You are gonna have to be upfront. Tell your parents. It’s time to be an adult.
Next will be figuring out where you are gonna live. How long distance are you? Is your job in person or remote?
If it can be remote would they be open to that for a bit or for you to come back a few times a month if you go and live with her?
If you are in the US start looking at what you need to do health insurance wise. Looks like you are on the front foot with the heart condition. It’s onto the professionals to manage that now.
Good luck!
Edit: do your parents know you have a gf? Have they met her etc? Presumably if the answer is yes then they’ll know you are doing the old no pants dance.
Are you from a culture where you’ll be forced into marriage or something?
Thank you everyone for all the supportive and encouraging advice. It means everything to me. I’ll try to open this to my parents this coming weekend. All of you are right. They more than deserve to know.
I’ll give an update once everything is settled.
I had a surprise pregnancy too, and it sucked, I felt like my life was over. I had no other option than to be a mother. Now he’s 11 and I have no regrets and he’s the light of my life.
Wishing you all the best! <3