Hi Reddit,
I’m 21 years old (M), and recently ended a month-long relationship with a 20-year-old woman (F). We met one night while drinking. Things escalated quickly and she ended up moving in with me almost immediately.
In that short time, I tried to give her stability: I shared my home, my car, my food, and what little money I had. I don’t live in luxury, but I gave her everything I could. I cooked, cleaned, worked long hours, and still tried to be emotionally available.
She, on the other hand, loved the nightlife — going out, drinking, and being around other people. I started noticing behavior that worried me. She once let a stranger into my house while I was away. Another time, she left with someone I didn’t know and didn’t come back until the next day.
Despite everything, I never tried to control her. I just wanted honesty and a shared life. Eventually, I found out she cheated — and with someone she barely knew. I still met her one last time to return her things, and looked her in the eyes and thanked her for the time we shared. She said, “Just remember, I didn’t do anything wrong.” And that was it.
What really hurts is that I gave so much, even emotionally — and in the end, I was left with silence and questions. I still don’t hate her. I remember small moments, like when we made mangoneadas (a frozen mango treat) together, or the Friday I spent laughing with her and her sister.
I’m grieving now, but trying to move on. I made a playlist to cry it all out. I’m keeping my space clean, cooking small meals again, trying not to drown in sadness. But part of me still asks:
How do I heal from giving everything and still not being enough?
TL;DR: 21M was in a one-month relationship with 20F who moved in quickly. I gave everything — shelter, support, transport, emotional care — and she ended up cheating and leaving. I’m grieving the loss and trying to rebuild. Just wondering how others heal from this kind of heartbreak.
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Gonna keep it straight with you, out of love and not out of a desire to hurt your feelings.
The root of this issue is your complete lack of self esteem. Your post is littered with red flags so glaringly obvious it’s difficult to tell whether this is a true story or satire/ragebait.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming it’s true: your next course of action should be completely removing yourself from the dating market and boosting your self confidence until you’re at LEAST at the point that you do not allow a random woman you met out drinking one night crash at your place under the false pretense of a whirlwind romance, because you respect yourself enough to see right through that bullshit.
This was obviously written by AI but I’ll bite.
You exhibited extremely bad judgement here. You don’t do all of that for someone you just met a month ago. She’s still a literal stranger. Next time, don’t move someone in, give them use of your car, and make yourself broke trying to ‘provide’ for someone you don’t know.
You have a lot of maturing to do if youre struggling to heal after only one month.
Bro, listening to sad music will only make you sadder.
If you want to talk, hit me up in DMs.