I’m not here to look for validation. I just genuinely feel toxic. I feel like I have no body to talk to about this.
TL;DR
He has a baby mama and I recently found out he cheated on me with her. It was hard for me to leave because his apology seemed sincere and he said he wouldn’t do it again. But here’s the catch, his ex apparently gained feelings after that and he said we have to stay lowkey for a bit. He keeps telling me if he leaves now she will prevent him from seeing his daughter. So, he’s “waiting for the right time to end things in a good terms way”. Yet I’m finding myself constantly asking him questions about his whereabouts, he even is starting to hide when she comes. She calls him her man, they text/call every single day…
I feel horrible for staying but at the same I want it to work out. Everytime I ask him where he went it always turns to a fight because he consistently keeps lying yet when I try to end things for good he tells me he’s sorry and I start to believe that I was the overthinker even though i know hes lying
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Girl get off the floor! Why are you accepting this treatment??? He’s having a whole ass relationship with her in front of your face
You’re way too young to be tied up in this situation, jeez.
Dude’s a cheater, will cheat again 100%, especially if baby mama is still around.
Feels a bit like you’re being manipulated and he’s taking the piss from an outside perspective.
He sounds like the biggest red flag. They sound like they are still together and he’s having you on the side. He is choosing her over you, He’s even got you convinced you’re the toxic one.
Please run.
Don’t let a guy treat you that way, please leave! No guy who wants to be with you would hide your relationship.
“waiting for the right time to end things in a good terms way” & “we have to stay lowkey” are the classic don’t breakup with me yet because XWYZ. He’s manipulating you because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with her but does want the benefits. And same for you. To be honest, her withholding his child is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. He should’ve wrapped it before he tapped it. If that happens then he needs to depend on a lawyer, not you.
You’re 22, you should be having fun. Not having anxiety over a broken up baby couple who clearly haven’t got boundaries yet to be broken up and coparent. There’s never a good or right time to break up with someone so you’ve just got to do it as soon as possible before he manipulates you more with something else meaning you need to stay.
Sounds like my baby dad. But me going back to him and finding out he has a girlfriend… I got out straight away. You need to do the same! You will make yourself paranoid! It’s nothing to do with the child. It’s him being controlling! You’re young and have your whole life ahead of you to find someone who will appreciate and love you.
You’re the side chick