Me 22F and my coworker 21F have gotten pretty close since she started working with us about a month ago. I’ve been over her house every weekend, and I get along really well with her family. Her cousin and grandma even gave me their numbers and invited me over when she wasn’t there. Her cousin asked me to come chill one day while my friend was at work, so I did. We hung out for a few hours and then I left.
The Saturday before that we were all drinking and talking about past experiences with women. It was one of those open and chill nights, just vibing and talking.
Then on Monday she randomly asked me if I had a crush on her. I asked why she thought that and she said her grandma mentioned that I look at her like I do. Her cousin also said my eyes lit up when my friend was talking about being with a woman.
But I honestly don’t have a crush on her at all. I see her strictly as a friend. If anything she’s the one that gets undressed in front of me and is super physically comfortable. I could flip the question and ask if she has a crush on me.
I told her I don’t like her like that, but now I feel weird about going over to her house again. I don’t need her family watching my facial expressions trying to figure out if I like her. I just wanted to vibe and be cool with them but now I feel watched.
Has anyone been in a situation like this How do I move past it without making things awkward or cutting her off completely?
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Here’s a thought, maybe, just maybe, they’re not checking for a crush, but instead, admiring how great of friends y’all are?
You answered the question already. As far as you’re concerned, it’s a friendship.
Continue to do whatever you would otherwise do. No need to feel weird. If her relatives still have questions about this, you can answer them. Their misinterpretation will wear off over time, because your behavior will prove them wrong. Since they all seem to like you, this shouldn’t become a real problem.
It was weird enough for your friend to ask you that question, but even weirder (and inappropriate) for her to tell you her family’s opinions of her. I’m sure they wouldn’t b r happy about that either.
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well don’t go over there. it is not a good idea to start friendship/relationship with coworker.
in fact, you have a job to do work and get paid. you don’t go there to make friends. Cut all ties. i am lot older and can tell you by experience. Soon they can turn on you and you can get called into HR. The drama isn’t with it. you need the job.
any chance the friend has a crush on you and was testing the waters? regardless, i would’ve kept my family’s comments to myself knowing the other person would feel awkward being around (read: observed by) them going forward
I hate to admit it, but I’ve been there too, sometimes people read way too much into little things, and it’s not always about what you think it is… like, I mean, who even knows what they’re looking for half the time? It’s wild how much can be made out of nothing.