So it makes absolutely no sense for my bf to cheat. His last relationship ended because he was cheated on and he’s always very passionately preaching to his friends about how you should just break up with someone instead of cheat. So it literally makes no sense that he would cheat. But over the weekend when I went to visit him istg his mouth smelt like someone else. We were kissing and it wasn’t anywhere else in his face except his nose, lips, and a bit on his chin, but I TASTED it… look not to be crude but I’ve munched box before. It’s got a very distinct taste and smell that I am familiar with. I also found a pack of cigarettes that are a different brand than his near the foot of his bed, but aside from that and a few minor things not adding up it’s not like there is any concrete evidence that he has been cheating on me or with who.
But then again he was literally cheated on so i don’t know. At the end of the day I already KNOW what I tasted, but I also thought I knew who I was dating. So does anyone know if there’s any other things on this planet that taste and smells exactly like a woman’s private parts? Could this really just be some misunderstanding after trying a new food or routine? Or do I already know the answer?
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Don’t gaslight yourself. I know plenty of people who are hurt from being cheated on and go on to do it to their future partners.
Sometimes people spend a lot of energy trying to convince people or maybe even themselves that they are something they’re not…
I mean, maybe confront him about it and see how he reacts. But l would say stand firm in saying you know he went down on someone else when you kissed him.
I’m so sorry but this is just diabolical u got me CRACKING UP at my desk lol. I haven’t ever tasted anything else that tasted like that before, so what you should do is make it a big thing and make him go to the dentist cause you worried about him. See how far it goes lmao
People that talk about cheating all the time are always cheating.
My guy couldn’t at least wash his mouth lmao? Mouthwash exists…
Only way to know is to confront him. But without evidence if he denies it and sticks to it there’s unfortunately not much you can do unless you want to do some deep digging which will probably not turn out the way you want it to
I’ve been with my husband nearly 20 years. He is my soulmate. We still become attracted to other people and things have happened varying in severity of infraction, but we are committed to each other and understand human nature so we work together to navigate these situations with honesty. I’m a bit shady by nature but my husband is a stand up guy of the highest caliber and he has done things that surprise me that I had to integrate into my understanding of him and just men in general. People cheat. Some people cheat because they are just sneaky and selfish, other people do it because they have a deep hole inside them that they try to fill with validation. The point is you can’t really predict who will cheat based on what they say to other people. You know what box tastes and smells like cause you have one and you have tasted it. You should just confront him about it. See what he says and go from there.
I mean theoretically, it could be something else that just really oddly tasted similar. like if he muff dived a coconut or something.
maybe worth asking if you can look through his phone for some clarity on some insecurity/intuition you’ve been having and see what comes up. If he freaks out, thats a pretty unfortunate sign. If he agrees to let you look, I guess be thorough with the apps and deleted text/pictures folders. And you can screenshot his phone and look through what contacts it suggests to send them to.
I say look, because with how certain you are about this I dont think you will ever have clarity or peace any other way. and I wouldn’t tell him right away why you have suspicions, just ask about the phone transparency.
Ewwwwwwwww. I’ll say a prayer for your tastebuds boo. You deserve better. Time to dump him on the curb and sign up for a spa day. Even an at home day. Get your hair and nails did. Say thank you no thank you, next
Tuna, fish sandwich?
To accuse someone of cheating is insult to character, tread lightly and don’t approach in an accusatory way.
“Bf I know we trust one another and can discuss issues when something bothers us. I noticed your breath/ smell was different the other day and saw cigarettes near bed that aren’t your typical brand. What’s that about?”
If he did nothing wrong, he’ll have easy explanation and it’ll make perfect sense to you. Not a big deal. If he gets defensive, he’s trying to shut down conversation because he’s lying or he doesn’t care about your feelings and then end it. If the excuses seem unlikely or illogical, end it. If you believe him, let it go and thank him for the reassurance.
Maybe he’s got thrush
This is the new “let me smell your dick” from the 90s. If I was your boyfriend I would end it immediately if you came at me with this so called “Evidence”. Its pathetic honestly. Two things are going on here. Either you have good reason to suspect cheating which according to your post you don’t or your one of these insecure always keeping score individuals who are just a nightmare to be in a relationship with. The guy ate a can of albacore tuna give him a break
Happened to me too but it turned me on so much that we slept together and I used the thought to get me off, I didn’t tell him anything ahaha
YOU. TASTED. IT. Imma be real wit u right quick. AINT NOTHING ELSE on this PLANET taste like that. You already know
My ex was like that. Had been cheated on before and was vehemently against cheating/cheaters. There were a couple times i’d come home from work and his face, mostly around his mouth/nose/chin smelled/tastes like someone else. I’ve never went down on a woman, but i have made out with him after he went down on me so i kinda know what that smells/tastes like. There were other signs as well but i dismissed them all bc said he would never cheat and i never found actual evidence he was cheating. But if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck well…you know what that means.
I’m sorry but you know. Stop trying to gaslight yourself.
He doesn’t respect you enough to wash his face before kissing you after potentially going down on another woman. What kind of person does that?
This is beyond disrespectful. How can you even stand the thought of how much contempt that takes?
Was he really cheated on in his last relationship though.. or did it end bc he cheated and then blamed it on the ex to make himself look good…
You’re being cheated on. Tell him you know. Break up with him. Move on.
Just because he was cheated on doesn’t mean he’s incapable of cheating. Hurt people hurt people as they say. You’ve got as close to proof as you’re gonna get unless you’re gonna dig through all of phone (which I don’t recommend). He may have even got off on the idea that you tasted someone else on him. You know what you should do here.
Ieuw the fact that he went down on someone else then kisses you with out cleaning their face and mouth
How long have you been together? When did he break up with the ex?
So… are you sure he didn’t twist the truth regarding the cheating? Many cheaters will claim to have been the victim, when they were the perpetrator. It’s very common.
I’d break up with him just cause he smoked cigarettes. How the hell can you kiss a guy that smokes cigarettes? That’s disgusting.
Have you tasted another woman’s pussy? Like do you lick your own pussy juice? I’m tryna understand. And women all taste different