For context she’s on a cruise with no signal and asked me to keep up with her TikTok streaks (she will commit murder over those damn streaks) and gave me her password. So the past two days I have been, but a certain chat log stuck out and yeah it was insecure of me to go snooping but I didn’t expect to find out it was her ex who CHEATED on her by the way. Anyways man they were reminiscing on the past relationship which okay inherently wasn’t shady until she started saying things like she still had feelings and what hurt the most “every chance I’d get I’d choose you” yikes…that hurts especially considering we’ve been together for a year and 9 months. When we’re together she acts like I’m her entire world and always goes on about how much she loves me and how she’d never leave so I’m genuinely just…confused. Idk lol not sure what to do, is this break up worthy or am I being dramatic?
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That’s rough. You should talk to her about it and how you feel. Communication’s important before deciding what to do
Believe her.
So she’s 19, you got together 1.5yrs ago, so she was in high school you were out of school.
She’s a kid, and she’s romanticised her first BF.
Personally I would end the relationship, by all means do the nice thing and keep her streak going, but good practise at ending a relationship and respectfully sharing why you feel the way you do, and how respect for yourself isn’t something you will put second.
In my opinion, no amount of talking it out should excuse something like that. The things people say when no one is looking, that is the truth. If it were me, I’d break up with her as soon as she gets home. But that’s just me.
Small addition is the guy even multiple times throughout the conversation brought my name up! Telling her it was wrong and asking how I’d feel if I were to find out, all she said is “he won’t find out trust me” so weird enough shoutout to him for calling her out on the shit behavior and ending the conversation.
I’m sorry but yeah that’s tough. She pretty much said you’re not her choice. You’re her consolation prize. You’re young. You deserve someone who will always pick you … go find that girl because your current girlfriend isn’t the one.