So Me F 23 and my boyfriend M 23 have been together for 4 years and when he had a problem I worked to fix it but when I bring up problems he fixes it maybe for a week maybe a month then will go back to make a long story short I feel like he’s emotionally using me almost like twisting my arm for example I recently moved in with him I told him the furthest I wanted to move was 40 minutes away from work and he told me that if I don’t open it up then he’ll live on his own I want to make it work so I caved in and when he found an apartment an hour away and like 30 minutes for him via train I brought up how I think it’s too far away and he said “this again” I signed the lease and lived with him for about a month now but I feel less and less in control over my own life I recently started styling my hair different he doesn’t like it but I do and want to keep it as it feel like one of the only things I am in control of I got carried away
I really want to know how to initiate the conversation of “This is serious” and explain my problems with his behavior because I feel I deserve to speak my feelings and give him a chance to fight for us like I have
TL;DR I feel my boyfriend is emotionally abusive/ manipulative and want help on how to talk to him about it