i [23F] don’t know if i should tell him [25M] he MIGHT be on the spectrum ?

First of i am no specialist ofc so nothing im saying is for sure, but i 23F been dating 25M for less than 2 months. He’s a very kind, sweet and nice person, almost naive (will get to that point later, and even he said that). And i don’t know if it’s because im used to be the emotional support friend, but the more time i spend with him, the more i grow loving, affectionate feelings towards him. The same way i like a brother, a family member or a dear friend than an actual partner that stimulates me. And it’s starting to affect the new relationship, i’m still hesitating on whether i carry on with this. And he’s very new to relationships and dating either way. But i care about him a lot, and i want to help him the best way i can to be in a better place whether it is with me or not.

So the thing is that he got comfortable with me and opened up about everything in his life real quick. I was surprised then he told me it’s reoccurring thing with him. And that he has problems bonding with people and to prefer being alone. Not to be mean, and im not the most neurotypical person out there which is why i relate and want to help. Also i know that people suck. But in some situations im thinking HE might be the problem. I started having some doubts about this so i spent some time looking up the symptoms and he has many of them such as: liking to plan every single thing, and sometimes it’s for things that are very far away, and back when i didnt know him, it used to freak me out before i got used to it. He’s really academically smart and well educated but sometimes he gets socially clueless. Sometimes he tells me things and im like ‘wait arent you supposed to not say that?’ Type, or acting a bit weird in public. Nothing too bad, and he sells it as mot caring what people think, but sometimes you also would want to read the room. He tells me he struggles with anxiety and had lots of depressed episodes a while ago, and while i just want to help i dont know how. He gets too honest sometimes, there are sometimes where he told me things that i know as a fact people would interpret very wrongly, i know he didn’t mean that and i know him better. But i also know that if he said the same thing in front of other people it might get him n trouble. He also gets too loud about the fact that he’s insecure, and i understand. I am too, i try my best to reassure him or give him advice with whatever i know but when he repeats things such as ‘you’re too good for me’ , ‘im afraid you’d leave me’ or ‘im really an insecure guy’ i dant help but be a bit turned off at that moment.

The thing is that he’s a good communicator ans he listens when i talk to him or tell him anything. But i am just a regular human being who’s also diving and trying. I can help sometimes, but i cannot guide him or tell him what to do each time because 1i want him to have his own personality and not cater him to my tastes’ and 2 i am not the arbitrary of what’s right or wrong, i cannot correct him or tell him what to do in the first place because who says im right to begin with. The only time i talked to him about therapy he got a bit defensive, he told me he likes praying in the church and that’s what makes him feel good (he’s not even religious), and that the only time he went to a counsellor it sucked and they didn’t help him. I want to tell him to get checked, see if he has something because even getting a diagnosis sometimes helps understand yourself better (been there), and that it might make his life better.

But idk should i do it? Do i tell him he might be on the spectrum, or to just go to a therapist? What can i even tell him?
TLDR : im seeing a guy. He’s a very nice person but i think he has some issues and it could best for him to maybe get in therapy to have an understanding of what he’s doing wrong. But i dont know if it’s my place to tell him