Last week, we got in a huge argument that resulted in him telling me to k@ll myself. He also called me a fata** knowing I overcame severe anorexia in my past. I forgave him and we spent the weekend together. I brought up the argument and told him how badly it hurt me. He said to get over it and not spoil the weekend. He told me to not ruin everything by resurrecting it. He said he just wants to forget it and move on but I can’t. It’s clear he has serious anger issues and I really want to leave him for good. I see where this is going and I know I deserve better. How can I dump him and not surrender to his apologies?
tl;dr: I need advice on how to leave my emotionally abusive boyfriend.
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What is currently stopping you from leaving him?
Go no contact and start working with a therapist
Ok, this sounds very bad. If you’re writing this and are aware he is abusive you’ve taken the most important first step. There’s no magic formula, you just have to want to leave him more than giving him another and another chance. I’d just keep in mind that people don’t really change.
Do you live together? If not, quietly take whatever of yours is at his place, block his number (maybe change yours) and all of his social media accounts, let your friends and loved ones know that you are broken up and they need to ignore any potential attempts at contact he might make.
If you do live together, it’ll be tricker. I’d try to secretly pack a “go-bag”, something full of stuff you’ll need if you have to make a quick escape. If you can, slowly start moving your most important stuff to a friend or family members house, somewhere you’ll be safe and around people. I’m glad you’re making the right choice.
You got 300+ replies of advice regarding this 2 days ago. Go to family and friends, stay with them a while and break up for good. Screenshot any crazy shit. If he does anything at all (like tries showing up at your location) or threatens anything – you have to immediately go to the police.
Dump him. Block him. Refuse to see him.
You don’t owe someone like this courtesy. Make sure that you have no reason to ever see him again by recovering any of your stuff he might have. Send him a message saying it’s over, and don’t wait for a response before blocking him.
It isn’t complicated. It just requires resolve.
you need to pack up your stuff and go to your family or friends and go full no contact. you have an unhealthy bond. the sooner you leave the better, he is actually doing long term emotional and psychological damage and altering the way you feel about yourself.