I (24F) have been with my now fiancé (27M) for 2 years. We’ve been engaged for a few months. He’s my first long-term boyfriend, and honestly, he’s amazing. He always communicates with me, never gives me the silent treatment, never compares me to other girls, always brings me little gifts, and has been serious about me from the start. He sees all my flaws and still loves me (unlike my ex or any of my past situationships).
He has been going to therapy and has grown a lot in his self improvement journey. I’ve been going to therapy for about three months now, and my therapist told me I have a “disorganized attachment style.”
Lately, though, I’ve been feeling really bored in the relationship. For two years, we’ve been talking every single day, texting constantly and calling every single day. At the start of our relationship, we used to meet about three times a week, but since we’re both students, now it’s usually just once a week, sometimes twice if we’re lucky. During exam periods, it becomes once every three weeks.
Now, I feel uninterested in talking on the phone or even texting. Our texting has become more like updating each other about what we’re doing instead of actually talking. I’m growing really bored and frustrated. We’re not arguing lately, which is great, but on the other hand… I’m just so bored.
The boredom and lack of excitement honestly scare me. What does it mean? Is this my disorganized attachment style talking, or is it something else? Has anyone felt like this before?
TL;DR: I (24F) have been with my fiancé (27M) for 2 years. He’s amazing, loving, and communicative, but lately I feel really bored and uninterested in talking to him. We text daily but it feels like updates only. I have a disorganized attachment style and I’m scared this boredom means something is wrong. Is it my attachment style or a real issue in the relationship?