We have been on a relationship for almost 4 years and we have dealt with trust issues from both sides over the years, especially the last two years. I almost left him during summer because I just couldn’t take it but after leaving I couldn’t help but feel that I have made a mistake by breaking up (we have one baby together so it makes decisions much harder for me).
Anyway, for some reason I decided to check his phone since I noticed he checked mine and deleted certain photos from my gallery which was suspicious. I found a conversation with this female coworker which I know of her existence since he talks about her often (well, lately not so much). There is nothing serious just that they call each other often when he finishes his shift at another job (not the one they both work) and maybe caught a lie that he said to her about the monthly rent which speculates that he is “paying” rent while living with his family (not true – that was his plan when I left, however, he pays our rent because we decided to stay together after all). There’s not much to add other than they share videos to each other often as well (they talk through Instagram so they share other people’s post with each other).
I actually don’t know if I should keep my defenses up with this or maybe is just a normal conversation with a female friend. I would like to hear other’s opinions regarding this issue.
TL;DR Found conversations with female coworker on my bf’s phone, they seem close but I’m not sure if it’s good close or suspicious close.