Okay so… I’ve never posted here but I need to vent this because I’m still cringing and also super confused.
I (24F) went on what was basically a first date on Friday night with this girl (26F) I’ve hooked up with once before, but this time we were just hanging out like, casually — drinks, dancing, low pressure (or so I thought).
We ended up at a bar, got really drunk — like, I blacked out halfway through the night. At some point I told her I felt sick and couldn’t throw up, and she (brace yourself) literally put her fingers down my throat to help me. Like… gently, but directly. I threw up a little, and she just… didn’t even flinch.
I barely remember what happened after that but we were still in the bathroom stall together and I asked her to spit in my mouth (??) and she did, and I think we were making out?? The memory is fuzzy but I’m like 90% sure.
She still kissed me afterward, laid on me in the car later when we got a ride home, gave me this really long hug when she dropped me off, and told me she’s “really attracted to me and likes kissing me.”
But she also said she sees me as “a friend” (she’s only been with guys before and we have been hanging out as actual friends minus the hooking up) then said, “unless you’re trying to be more.” I don’t even know how to read that.
I’m completely mortified — like, who does that on a first date?! — but I’m also confused because she wasn’t weirded out at all. She seemed into it? Is that even normal?? Would most people be totally grossed out by all this?
I want to talk to her but I’m scared she’s just being nice and secretly thinking I’m disgusting. Or worse, she thinks I’m intense and is just being polite.
Has anyone ever had a date spiral into absolute bodily chaos like this and still had it turn into something meaningful? Or did I just permanently ruin a potential connection by being the human version of a disaster movie?
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Honestly if she stayed through all that and still kissed you after, girl… you might be onto something.
Was she also drunk as well?
It sounds like she’s interested. I think you’ve got yourself a cute first date story to tell the grandkids one day.
Honestly if she stuck around through all that and still kissed you after, she probably likes you more than you think. Just text her something honest but low key like “still thinking about Friday lol, want to hang again soon?” and see how she vibes.
If she was drinking as well I can see her not being as weirded out so that could be a big factor here.
Honestly I have been on dates that went south due to alcohol and I always chalked it up to nerves and didn’t hold it against the person.
I’d have convo with her and gauge how it feels after that. Given that you hooked up already before this I do also think that can make her more comfortable with you.
My fiancé and I went away together not long after we started dating… I got extremely drunk and ended up throwing up all over him on my way to the bathroom… we’re still here months later 🫶🏼
You should consider AA and never drink anymore
I’d be more worried about being taken-advantage-of while inebriated.
The part where she said “unless you are trying to be more” to me that says she is interested in you to become more than a friend. Take her out on a lunch date. No drinking. You never know. It might turn into something wonderful.
After all that? She’s yours if you want to say yes. Nothing confusing and don’t over think it : it’s Yes I want to spend more time with her or – No I don’t.
Pick one. She sounds like a v cool woman who can handle you.
Nvm about her. Guuurrlll. You need to think about your drinking habits. You got lucky this time. This gonna fk you up good one day.
It’s up to you but if it was me I would go on a second date that did not involve alcohol so I can genuinely get to know this person and then if I felt like this person really was interested I would open up and become a little bit more vulnerable.
Ok muncher. At least you won’t get pregnant. Chill. It was concentual. Wel that’s assuming its not a he/she. Then you were really fucked. In that case, get a test. Otherwise, stop being a woman, I mean over dramatic.