I am 24 (F). I have never been in a relationship. I am not socially unattractive and most people say it is just because guys are “intimidated by me.” Im not sure why? Personally, I have never found myself beautiful. I have always focused on academics and achievements rather than a relationship. I finally decided to join dating apps, but I always am too scared to initiate a conversation. I am so worried that I will mess everything up, or he will find me unattractive in person, or I will seem too nerdy, or a million other scenarios I can run in my mind. Now that I am 24 I worry that I will be judged for being so old and never dating. Any advice?
TL;DR : I am terrified of putting myself out there due to fear of rejection. Any advice?
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Figure out what you want in life and your goals and then take a deep breath and dive into the dating pool and be yourself. Go slow, but make your intentions known early on as to not waste time with someone who doesn’t want the same things you want out of life.
It sounds like you have very low self esteem combined with anxiety. Honestly, I wouldn’t rush right into to dating if I were you, I would spend some time finding yourself a bit.
Hard to find someone to like you until you like yourself a bit.
Hi. This is going to be tough. There’s no guarantee you’ll find what you’re looking for. Most people won’t care that you’ve never been in a relationship. Some people will take advantage of that. Good people will be gentle, but at 24 it’s hard to find that. I completely understand your comment about fear of rejection, but unfortunately, in the dating world that’s real. It isn’t about you at all. It’s just the nature of dating. Good luck and have faith in yourself. Meeting the right person is really really, really really hard, and it takes a lot of practice. I’m a lot older than you and twice divorced. I’m also a pretty decent and successful guy. I only say that to say it’s hard for everyone. Good luck and keep faith. Trust in your gut, and trust in yourself.
Trust me, if you continue putting yourself out there you’re gonna find yourself being the person who rejects others instead of the one being rejected. Intelligence is extremely attractive to a lot of people, but it’s just a small group of people who can return the favour. It’s safe to assume you’re wanted until proven otherwise.
Don’t worry you’re not too old!!
Yes, people will judge you. But they judge everyone, right?
What people think doesn’t matter… What does matter is that you find your way.
Be brave, the dating scene is harsh… But there are also plenty of good people out there, you might find them.