I’ve been with my boyfriend (M, 25) for 7 years, and I know all his friends well. One of them (let’s call him Jake) has always been nice to me, I have helped planning his birthday last year and hung out multiple times, so I thought we had a good relationship.
Recently, Jake (M, 25) organized a birthday party for my boyfriend, but I wasn’t invited. I only found out afterward, and it hurt because I’ve been part of my boyfriend’s life and friend group for so long. (The friend group was boys and girls, from college and school).
My boyfriend didn’t know about the party beforehand, so I don’t blame him for that. However, when I told him I was sad about not being included, he just said, “Then talk to Jake about it,” as if it wasn’t his concern. I wasn’t looking to start a fight—I just wanted to express how I felt.
His reaction made me feel even worse, like my feelings didn’t matter. I don’t know how to process this situation. At this point, I just feel sad, now I am thinking if maybe I did something wrong or they actually don’t like me. Should I address this with my boyfriend, his friend, or just let it go? How do I deal with this?