I (24M) am worried about the stability of my relationship with my boyfriend (29M)

For context, we’ve been together for 5 years, living together for roughly 2.

We’re on opposite sleep schedules and it’s been driving me crazy. I work all day (7am – 4pm), and he usually sleeps all day and wakes up when I get home. He’s been out of a job for awhile due to his previous employer fucking him over, and due to his body shape he’s not in the best condition to work. He’s gone through PT for back/leg issues and is going smoothly in that direction.

The problem is that we don’t really do anything more than just hang out together. We’re unable to really do anything more because the amount that I get paid every couple of weeks is just barely enough for everything so I’m always on edge finance wise and can really only do a “nice thing” every month or two. If I spend something on myself, its always usually the cheapest I can get it, but I put everything above myself in terms of that.

In terms of more intimate parts, it feels like I’m always ready to go whenever but he never is, at least when I’m awake. We’ve talked about it before but he’s saying he wants to “get back into shape” but never really does anything major about it, and whenever I do bring it up he always seems to just turn me down. The second I seemingly go to sleep or fall asleep during the night he’s suddenly in the mood. It’s killing me internally that this person I love and want to be with, I can’t share any of my love with in intimate ways. We’ve both struggled with p*rn related addictions and I’m trying to be better about it, but here he is saying he wants to buy an expensive sex toy…

Every day feels the same, I wake up, I go to work, I come back, make dinner, maybe watch YT for a bit, then go to bed. Weekends are even worse.

I want to love him more, I want to be with him more, I want to do things outside of my normal routine but it is killing me day in and day out, and I don’t know what to do. I also don’t know if I’m seemingly overthinking it and it will get better once he’s in proper shape?

TLDR: Me and my BF are on opposite sleep schedules, we barely do anything together anymore (whether it be hanging out or being intimate) and it’s been eating away at me for the past year and I’m not quite sure how to deal with it.