I [24M] am reaching out into the abyss right now for literally anything. I met this girl [25F] on tinder 9 months ago, she was staying for the summer and then leaving, we fell in love, it was a proper love story and we fell hard. We planned our whole lives, we visited each other and we had genuinely the most magical times together, the most magical trips. She went to America for 6 months, super anxious, I called her every spare second I had, woke up early, got home from work and called her till I went to bed to make sure she wasn’t lonely. I booked a trip for month 4/6, taking time off and getting permission to work remotely from USA for her so I could show up for her. Second week in, I found out she cheated on me. I’m so devastated. I feel guilty to my friends taking care of me because I have even the tiniest sliver of me considering taking her back. She’s asked me to reconsider breaking up with her. I redownloaded tinder, mostly just as a something to do to distract me and my last chat was with her, our first couple of messages mention the USA trip she was going to be going on. I’m so broken and I’ve made this account to reach out into the abyss rather than reach out to her. All I want is her hug and it feels like that is the only thing that could help right now. I really need some help with dealing with this right now?
TLDR: I flew across the world to support my gf and I found out she cheated on me. Does anyone have advice to help me cope?
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I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, man. You must accept the relationship is over, block her on everything and start moving forward with your life.
Do not isolate yourself. Leave the house everyday, go for runs, and go to the gym. It’s very important to spend time with your family and friends during this difficult time. You will get over this.