We randomly met on a life-changing trip to a different country a few weeks ago, but we live in the same country. We had an insanely intense and dynamic connection, and he told me that he thought we might be soulmates, and that it felt like we had known each other for years and that we were like an old married couple. He promised me he would visit me and said that he likes me a lot and is interested in potentially pursuing something serious. I told him that I don’t do casual and he said neither does he.
I am crazy about this guy. It takes a lot for me to really envision myself in a relationship with someone, and it doesn’t come up that frequently. There are so many wonderful qualities about him that I admire and respect, and I also love the person I am with him.
The first few days after we said goodbye (for the time being), he was texting me a lot and being very effusive, sending hearts and writing sweet messages. I also sent him the music I compose and he basically wrote back an essay about all the things he loved about it and had clearly studied it in great depth.
Sometimes he would ask if I was ok, or if he did something wrong, when I didn’t respond for a few hours. I have never known a guy to do that. Then one day he randomly pulled way back. He still texts me but it’s once a day, and it’s not as effusive. I am trying not to push for clarity, but it’s eating away at me. All I want to know is if he’s just busy, or if he worries about coming on too strong and doesn’t want to overwhelm me, or if he has lost feelings.
I have had a lot of relationship trauma which has caused me to feel incredibly desensitized. It is so hard for me to trust men at their word because I have been ghosted and betrayed a few too many times.
So do you think I should trust him at his word? Or should I get clarification? Or just let it go? What would you do? Thank you in advance ❤️
TL;DR I am worried that I was love bombed by someone I am crazy about who came on very strong initially and has pulled back and I am trying to figure out why he has distanced himself, and if this merits a conversation or if I should give it time