I (25f) miss sending my boyfriend (27m) nudes, we are in a ling term relationship and used to send nudes and sext constantly (alot during long distance) but lately we stopped, especially since moving in together.
I want to try sending him nudes more because it makes me feel confident and sexy and i like taking him, and i like making him feel loved and wanted while we’re apart. Lately though every time i do his reactions are lack luster with just hearts or emojis. We talked about this and i asked if he still wanted them and he said he does.
So i waited a few months to let the awkward-ness of talking about it while he was on a business trip i sent some in a cute lingerie one piece and same emoji reactions and when we called later that night he said “your pictures were very nice” – normally i let it go and try to take it as a small loss but i want to communicate so i tried to be silly and say “my grandma tells me i look very nice” – then he said “it was super hot- is that better?” Obviously thats weird so i dropped it and kept the mood light. I know the honeymoon phase ends but does anybody in a similar situation have any advice on turning the situation around? I want to wear sexy things for him and surprise him- but when the enthusiasm is dropped i just feel a little silly.
(We do have regular sex, just a little less passionate, i wear cute and sexy pjs and try to look nice for him, ive been eating well and take care of my body, skincare & hair)
Tl;dr any advice for making my boyfriend excited about photos from me, or if he already is making it feel more exciting and sexually charged?
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Passion will always fade over time as things become less new and exciting and instead become more safe and comfy. Many people think this means the relationship is on the rocks or going to fail because they don’t feel the same as the beginning but this is naive thinking. Just keep doing what you’re doing, send your pictures and feel good about yourself. Over thinking it will create problems that aren’t there potentially. You can’t expect him to be as enthusiastic about pictures as he was when you were long distance because he can touch you now etc. You have an insecurity about his affection for you and this will mislead you in reading moments and messages. Take a deep breath and try to fairly judge those moments so you can make the best judgement.