Me and my girlfriend have been together a while now and the relationship is good. I just get a super weird vibe whenever her cousin is brought up and she talks about him. For some background I’ve known her cousin over 15 years. We’ve been hanging out for years and although I wouldn’t consider us close to the point of brothers, I know the guy really well and we still hang out to this day. He’s an okay guy but he cheats on his girl if the opportunity is there and I’ve heard him make some comments about getting with girls that only someone with very low morals would say. He’s been with his girl 10-15 years as well since we were all young. He’s got a decent heart but I’m trying to point out the fact that his morals are so-so and honestly if the opportunity presented itself, I wouldn’t put it past him to try to get with his cousin. He’s also a liar and has done things that I know of to make himself look better in situations that were 100% his fault.
Back to the topic of my girl, whenever she talks about her cousin I just get a sense that she kind of has a crush on him. She’s made several comments about how good looking he is and how they all grew up together and just how much she loves him. When she texts him (they barely text from what I know but on occasion) she tells him she loves him and sends him a bunch of hearts and stuff and he always replies the same back. For example, one day we were talking about her cousin (topic came up randomly) and I was just telling her that I know some stuff about him (didn’t wanna bad mouth him to her) and she just kind of said “oh believe me I know ALL about him” and gave me a weird look with a little smirk. When I asked her what she meant she wouldn’t tell me and just said “nothing”. So she kind of tried to avoid the topic. Now I’m not saying that her and her cousin are doing anything or HAVE done anything together, it just rubs me wrong as hell the way she talks about him. I also know that it’s pretty common for cousins to crush on each other and even do things when there younger and stuff.
Knowing her cousin as well as I do, he would act completely normal around me if something was going on or even happened long before me. He’s that type. Also ive been around the block and know enough that when a girl talks about a guy the way she does about him, it indicates something. I know when I talk about my cousins I’m not acting like that or even when I text them for whatever. I feel weird even asking this because it’s so gross to me but am I just being crazy? Has anyone ever felt like this? I feel like I wouldn’t be feeling this way for nothing. How should I go about it?
TL;DR- the way my girlfriend talks to me about her cousin makes me feel she has a crush on him. What would you think and do?
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I had sex with my 1st cousin,she was 19 myself was 18. Unfortunately,that wasn’t the last time. We were both nice looking and she was constantly flirting with me.
Give her an ultimatum,it’s you or the Cousin. I can almost guarantee they have had sex or at least oral. I’m sorry to burst your bubble and make you feel bad but,simply want you to be in a healthy relationship.