This might sound stupid but I can’t remember the last time he got me flowers, or sent me a sweet/out of the blue text message, or took us out on a proper date. It just feels like we’ve been going through the motions, which is normal sometimes and I know that. Life can’t always be a romantic fairytale. I guess I’ve also been feeling a little resentful because he always says he’s going to do something nice for me (ex: write me a love letter, take me to get my nails done, buy me flowers, etc.) and then he just doesn’t. When I remind him of the things he said, he apologizes and promises to do better and then does the same thing a week later.
I don’t wanna sound like a spoiled brat, I know a relationship isn’t just about the material things but it’s more so the fact that he goes out of his way to promise me something that will make me feel special, and then ends up not doing it or even acknowledging it. I can’t remember the last time we went on a real date either. Don’t get me wrong, he still makes time to see me (albeit we just hang at his house) and we talk every single day but I guess it just feels like the effort on his side has started to slowly diminish?
I’ve wanted to talk to him about how I’m feeling for a while now but it’s not a good time. He’s been really stressed about a job situation AND his bday is coming up next week so :/ I guess I’m looking for advice on when/how to approach this type of conversation. Or if I even should. Am I excepting too much?
TLDR:
Frustrated with my partners lack of follow through on the things he says he’s going to do, lately it just feels like our relationship has been going through the motions and I’m not sure how to bring it up.