My girl and I have been together for 8 years. Her family always had an issue with my and I never understood why. About 5 months ago her sisters tried to fight me, called me out of my name in my face multiple times all because I told their mom not to speak on me and my wife’s relationship since she literally has no right to do so, same day Her mom ended up kicking out her little brother so she took him in… The issue is, he’s overstaying, stacking his money not paying any kind of rent or anything no tissue, paper towels, nothing. He has broken my $80 bong he used without asking, puts his juice bottles in my ice bucket, comes in and out my house 2-4am, used my jewelry holder as a fucking ash tray. I tried to be nice and just let him stay but it’s just a whole lot of little shit that I dislike. He comes i to my room without knocking he even did it when me and my wife were ass naked in the shower w the door open.
Her sister whom I no longer get along with is in town and she came to my house and dropped her kids off so my wife can see her nieces. I just waited in my room until she left honestly. But she said her sister is dropping off her nieces again today which means she’ll be in my house again… I don’t understand why her sister cant just pick her up and take her to the rental they have while in town instead of coming to invade my space. I told my wife im just annoyed and tired of not having my own space. It doesn’t feel like mine anymore because her brother is still here. He was supposed to be gone a week ago, he told my wife something happened with his diploma so he cant leave to vegas rn until that’s fixed which is needed for the military. I told her I just wanted my space back and she says to me “I dont wanna hear this shit rn “ then went and cried off somewhere in the house I haven’t seen her in hours. My thing is, am I being selfish for not wanting to deal with her people at all anymore?? They’ve disrespected me time and time again and I no longer want anyone in my house that’s related to her.
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You seem to be in the center of a lot of drama. Thats all I’ll say.
Have you ever asked your girlfriend why her family hates you?
Boot them all out. I just evicted my w son, his wife and their business partner. They destroyed so many things. Potential carpets, furniture, stained my driveway with oil. Ruined the flooring and the walls. I gave the son a credit card to build his credit. He ran up the card after he had it for years and refuses to pay me back. His dogs ruined my house and the house smells. I let them drive my two trucks to work.random he slept in as much as possible, worked as little as possible and demanded I give him my Toyota tundra 4×4 for free. Now I am the bad guy. I told him he had to move and he tried to attack me at 11:30pm. I called 911 and he told the sheriff I got him. We all ended up with citations which is costing us thousands in attorney fees. There is no evidence of any of these accusations. I called 911 and he was in the background obviously in my face yelling go ahead hit me.
It didn’t start off this bad but over time these entitled narcissists will ruin your life, take your money and trash your house and relationship.
That’s my stepson, his wife and business partner. I had three people, two dogs and seven broken vehicles at my house. They moved in with all their stuff and took over my house while I paid for everything. They left dog feces everywhere. Nothing good will come from having disrespectful free loaders. They don’t respect you, they are just using you. Your wife needs to wake up. And the day you cut them off or tell them to leave it will be like you never helped them at all. These are takers.
I think there’s a lot missing here around why your relationships are so strained, and just going by the general tone of this, I doubt it’s all on their side. You’re married but everything is “my space”. Assuming you and your wife live together is it not her space also and is she not allowed to visit with family? She’s off “crying somewhere” and you seem more concerned about your space and how people aren’t following your rules than about her feelings and helping her deal with family issues/obligations.
You are the only one who can change.
Color me skeptical we’re getting even half of the real story here.
She’s your girlfriend, not your wife. If you’re miserable, unhappy, and coming in next to last place, why dont you leave? It’s obvious she’s not going to choose you over them, so what’s the point in continuing this toxic and disrespectful behavior? None of this has to do with selfishness. It’s about lack of respect and boundaries. Either you’re going to get off the pot or keep sitting in it until you no longer recognize it smells.
Have your wife make a post