I’m diagnosed with fibromyalgia, recently started adhd meds and amitriptyline. I’m sleeping like I’m dead. I sleep through alarms, vibrating ones, loud ones, light ones etc. I don’t know how I’m supposed to sleep lighter, I can sleep through my children jumping on me, I barely wake up when my husbands shaking me and even then when I do it’s like I’m sedated until I’ve had my meds and a coffee 🫣 if I’m left I’ll sleep like 20 hours a day, I constantly fall back asleep
Doctors aren’t bothered, they keep saying it’s part of the chronic fatigue but it’s taking such a huge toll on my husband having to wake me all the time. He keeps waking me SO angry that I’m sleeping so much, I don’t think he believes I’m not doing it on purpose, how do I speak to him about this? How do I get to a level we’re both happy?
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You definitely need to find a doctor who takes you and your condition seriously! I’m 26F pregnant with a toddler right now (i have fibro) and i’m more or less a rock who can’t move so i can definitely relate. You probably just need a med dose adjustment or an additional med to balance it out. Sorry that doctors don’t take women in their 20s with fibro seriously :/
Have you been tested for sleep apnea? I get you have a lot of other stuff going on that could be causing this, but the way you described trying to wake up reminded me a LOT of how I struggled before I was diagnosed and treated for sleep apnea. It was like an impossible battle just waking up and getting out of bed.
I was also on a cocktail of things to try and help with my energy and sleep issues. Turns out I just needed a CPAP. Still have some issues with insomnia but I can actually wake up now and have energy and focus during the day. It’s been a wild difference.
As for your husband, I’m sorry he kinda sucks. My ex was a dick about my sleep problems too and was pretty resentful. Couples therapy might help but if he’s just being a jerk because you have health issues and won’t change his attitude unless you don’t have health issues, not sure he’s worth keeping. You can’t fix someone being an asshole.