I (28F) have been dating a guy (32m) two months and his ex came into the apartment while we were in bed and not sure if I should forgive him

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We were in bed having sex when the door opened and the lights turned on. A woman started pushing him and yelling at him that he was a liar. He asked how did you get in here? She read me messages to her from him where he told her he was at his sisters house and would call after. The next line was her asking for him to bring a bottle of wine and why was he taking so long. She asked where are my keys? He said I don’t know… where the keys are. So she took all the keys and left. He called the police and said she entered his apartment without permission. Then she came back upstairs and asked where was her stuff and threw his car keys down. He yelled at her to get out and she did. He continued to file a police report. He says she is his crazy ex who must have made a copy of his house key without permission. I am not sure if I should forgive him?

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  2. slurpeebandit Avatar

    i would not forgive him, this sounds like a really messy situation that should have been sorted out two months ago at LEAST

  3. RipOk3600 Avatar

    So his house was invaded, by someone who had no permission to be there, he was assaulted and you blame him?

  4. T_Pie Avatar

    Won’t lie that sounds like waaaayy too much drama for me. I wouldn’t stay for any of that and I guess it’s up to you whether you move forward or not. Sounds like he’s been lying about being exclusive with you so I’d call it off, 2 months in and cheating is pretty much the kind of thing you want to avoid…

  5. Bustakrimes91 Avatar

    No you shouldn’t forgive him.

    A lot of “crazy” ex’s aren’t actually crazy. Are you sure she’s even his ex? He lied about being with you for a reason. They are probably still in a relationship or at least are still having sex together. Most people don’t lie to their ex because they have no reason to. He could have told her he was with someone but he didn’t. Again this raises the question as to why?

    His plan was to leave after you had sex to bring her wine and probably have sex with her too. Why on earth would you want to continue dating this guy? He sounds like a player and I hope he at least planned to shower between dates.

  6. Reasonable_Mode_6894 Avatar

    I don’t about you, but I would stay out of the drama. There is a lot more going on between them. Sounds like they’re still together. Leave and find someone without the drama.

  7. Subject_Ad_4561 Avatar

    Why would he say he’s at his sister’s house and any other lie other than telling her to leave him alone and get her blocked. Sounds like he was maybe leading her on which isn’t OK, and if she’s crazy as he said, and what it appears to be shown in this post, it’s crazy to even respond to her at all.

  8. ScaryButterscotch474 Avatar

    Aaaah the crazy ex. Did she look crazy to you? Or did she look like someone who walked in on her boyfriend boinking his next girlfriend? Look up monkey branching.

  9. MightySD69 Avatar

    Why was the woman calling him a liar about what? This ex seems like a recent break up or maybe he was still with her when he started dating you? Something feels off?? He’s still messaging her on his phone? None of this makes sense. Bail out.

  10. saucisse Avatar

    Sounds like she wasn’t his ex and you were his hookup.

  11. RespondOpposite Avatar

    She isn’t his ex as far as she’s concerned. Bring a bottle of wine? You’re the side chick, girl.

  12. West-Kaleidoscope129 Avatar

    Sorry to tell you but you’re his side piece.

  13. popules Avatar

    Do not forgive him. He lied to her about where he was while in bed with you. That is all you need to know. The key drama is noise. The real issue is he was double-timing and got caught mid-act. Walk away before you get dragged deeper.

    Good luck.

  14. wishingforarainyday Avatar

    Sounds like he’s a cheater who got caught. You should get tested and dump him.

  15. swigityshane1 Avatar

    As someone with a crazy ex who kept showing up years later to try to affect my life through different means it’s not totally unbelievable. But the burden of proof is definitely on that guy lmao