I’m done. I have no idea how many times I asked him why it stinks or to see a doctor, at least for months if not a year. All he does is keep saying sorry and it’s leaking. LEAKING? If it’s really the case then i feel bad for him, but I see absolutely no effort other than he claims he’s watshing it after he pees. It’s about him not making effort at all. When I hand him a book to read so he can understand my diagnosis because he keeps making insensitive comments, nope leave it untouched for months. Something even small to make me feel happy? Nope NOTHING. If I ask him to plan a date once in a while? Nope nothing. It’s always me. Reminding him to pay bills, etc. I tried to look good side of him (patient, caring, smart, handsome etc) but I feel like I hit the breaking point. Is this relationship savable?
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Ew girl RUN.
Not salvageable, and you know that.
Im sorry what? his dick is leaking? Thats got to be an infection of some kind. Does he have an active STD?
Get tested
Hell naw. He’s 30 years old if he’s not capable of taking care of himself or going to the doctors incase he has a diagnosis then the relationship is over no further discussion that’s nasty
Have you both gotten tested for STDs?
Sounds like his smelly wee wee is a symptom of some much larger relationship problems (not necessarily medical issues to be clear).
You can break up with anyone anytime for any reason, offering an explanation is a courtesy, not an obligation. People have broken up for far less.
If it was just a smelly wiener, the relationship would probably be salvageable, but it sounds like there’s a lot more serious issues. Lack of effort in the relationship, lack of diligence with bills to name the few you mentioned here. Date a person for who they are, not who you want them to be. For the relationship to be salvageable, you’d need some pretext that he would listen or at least discuss, which you’ve already tried to no avail. If you need to breakup, you have my blessing.
Get tested for any STDs he may have given you. You have more than enough reason to break up, and to be honest I have to ask why you waited this long. He’s not all that smart if he is not concerned about why it smells and what may be causing it.
I would not stay with him. Also get tested for STDs. Things like gonorrhoea can cause a discharge.
Omgg nooo 😭 definitely break up… if not because of the stinky dick (which is kinda valid on its own..) then because of everything else mentioned in the last half of your post
He could be carrying gardnerella what is a bacterial infection, could be sexually transmitted, it’s not hard to treat. But since himself does not care about his own business, I would leave him.
And let a note for him to go in the doctor.
>> When I hand him a book to read so he can understand my diagnosis
What diagnosis?
That’s just nasty. And you’re still with him? I hope you’re using protection!
Yo that is not normal. It is not suppose to leak or smell. Stop having sex and go see a doctor. You probably have an STD.
Disgusting
Man here. Leave his ass.
He can’t be bothered to plan a date, never mind wash his ass and balls. He needs to see a doctor if he still has an odor there despite regular bathing. He could be depressed but maybe you leaving him will be the catalyst for change for him.
Is he uncircumcised perhaps?
Editing- Healthy dicks do not leak
Ewwwww we women tolerate too much. Run sis
I just threw up a little in my mouth. Girl, you can do so much better! Also, please get tested for every STI known to humankind and then never shag him again.
Not a biological male but I don’t think it’s suppose to be”leak” like that sounds like some stds
Time to put ol yeller down behind the woodshed
Why would you even want to salvage this? This doesn’t even sound redeemable
If you want to raise a man into adulthood who will never reach it bc you’re there, the stay with him.
You know how many women get chronically ill with stress bc the men in their lives are inadequate adults? They end up becoming married single mothers too…
If he’s not stepping up for his own health, hygiene, and home, he’s not going to do it anywhere else.
Be done with him. He has no respect for you or your requests.
Id have left in a heartbeat 😭 RUN PLS that is so disgusting
I guess blow jobs are out of the question. 🤭
Eewwwwww.
You deserve better
Besides the smelly, drippy dick, this man isn’t even giving you the bare minimum. You’re not happy and you deserve someone who values your opinion.
As someone who spent 8+ years in a relationship that sounds EXACTLY like this, get out. Just for your happiness. I’ve been in a new relationship for 6 months and it feels like night and day. Whatever is holding you back, please don’t let it be fear because I PROMISE you there is someone out there that will take care of you the way you need. Good luck.
I physically gagged reading this, so to answer your question:
> Is this relationship savable?
No, for the sake of your mental and physical health.
Stinky peet, call him that from now on hahaha
What is even this fucking thread!? Girl I really really REALLY don’t think you need US to tell you what needs to happen. Your self esteem cannot be THAT LOW RIGHT?!?????
I’m appalled that this isn’t a thread saying “I BROKE UP with my boyfriend 30M because his penis is leaking”
Girl pleaseeeee love yourself more! Wtfffff
Who does he think he is? Can’t clean up his stinky P. Especially after you cleaned up your fish smelling V. I mean yeah, I took you a month to do it and the neighborhood cats were starting to come by. But you eventually did it
Sounds like incontinence which is absolutely something that can be addressed. I say this as someone who is struggling with incontinence and have done pelvic floor therapy. (I’m exploring other issues right now that could be causing it beyond pelvic floor dysfunction)
Leaking? Sounds like the infamous drip. Might have an STD
A stinky, oozing penis and to top it off he’s inconsiderate? Why is it even a question to leave him 😭 What a creature.
Im trying to eat my oatmeal cookie here…
You listed the good side of him includes caring and smart but what you are describing is the total opposite of that.
girl… he is 30 with a leaky peen who is demonstrating that he does not care about you. please, rip the bandaid off. it’ll be uncomfortable for like 2 weeks and then you’ll be like “wtf was all that”.
He’s probably too embarrassed to go to the doctor over his stinking dick. He probably has some sort of infection or std and stupidly thinks washing it will eventually sort it. It won’t.
He is acting like a child. He doesn’t even put in the effort to plan a date. Time to dump him and dirty dick.
u/bot-sleuth-bot
He needs to see a doc…is he circumcised? An uncircumcised penis gets infections…the skin has to be pulled all the way back and cleaned…if it’s a circumcised penis, he’s a lazy azz you need to consider your tolerance level…one ultimatum is go to the doc or you’ll be alone with your stinky penis.
so glad I am not into men after reading this
Is he uncut and not cleaning properly under is foreskin?
WTF he should take a shower before sex – in fact why not try that – tell him u want to shower together- get undressed and and tell him u want sex in the shower – make it kinky
BTW don’t wash it before sex so when he goes down it’s like a rose garden??
Or at least if u did some anal first he’d have an excuse for the dick stank
If he won’t address it or clean up – adios
A leaking dick he doesn’t care about? You do all the work? Stinky penis? Why would you want to salvage the relationship? Is your self-worth so low you think this is what you have to put up with? Is this the best you can do? If you had a leaking vagina, he had to do all the work, and your vagina smelled. How long do you think he’d stick around?
If he says it’s leaking and has a bad smell, if I were you I would go to your own doctor and be checked for gonorrhea or any of several other STDs.
Sorry. But you need to be aware of that.
What’s his penile anatomy like? Does he have a foreskin? If so, does he pull it fully back to clean? Can he pull it back? Some men have a tight one that they can’t pull back to clean, resulting in smegma buildup.
If he’s dribbling from the tip, I’d guess chlamydia ( you could still be clear if using condoms).
It’s all grim that he’s doing nothing about it. Don’t go near it. Tell him exactly why he’s being dumped( leave out the no dates thing) Then he might be inspired to take action, which will be doing him a favour in the long run – and any woman crossing his path.
Can’t wash his dick, likely doesn’t wash his ass. I don’t even know you, and I know you deserve better than this!
It stinks and it’s leaking he probably has a infection
Stinky dick? Hard no … pun intended;)
You stayed for a year after you told him his penis stinks and leaks? A year?
Please tell me you’re not having sex with him. 🥺
Is he circumcised? Does he shower regularly?
Gross. Go see a gyn and break up.
He probably needs to see a urologist.
He either has an std or something wrong with his prostrate or urinary track. Doing nothing is not an option.
I had prostrate cancer and had it removed. I had incontinence for several months.
Check his dirty underwear if it’s constantly damp or stained he is hiding something healthwise.
Gonorrhea? Why not call it it’s-a-here-a? RUN!
Girl….
Guy with a normal smelling penis here : that doesn’t sound normal and he probably doesn’t wash properly, and or has something wrong with his junk. If he won’t take care of it then just tell him what’s wrong and leave, plus if he won’t take the std test idk why you keep having sex with him.
Leaking is NOT healthy. Both of you need to get tested ASAP!
His dong is leaking, he won’t look into it and isn’t worried about it, he doesn’t make ANY EFFORT to plan dates, and you have to remind him to pay the bills? What I’m hearing here is that you’re having to be his secretary/calendar, his sometimes nurse, and you’re not getting anything for your efforts.
You deserve better, and no the relationship isn’t worth salvaging. It’s time to go.
I’m gonna stop scrolling unless there is a reply from OP
Life is too short to put up with this shit
Girl, you need a therapist so you can work on why in the world you chose to stay in this gross mess for so long. Don’t date anyone until you’ve figured out the why’s and solved those issues.
GahhhhhhROSSSSS!!! Dude needs to get dropped in a dumpster somewhere with that nonsense. Gross. Gross. Gross.
For real, get your vag checked because he’s disgusting. 🤮
This is a 30 year old man that’s refusing to see a doctor about his SMELLY DRIPPING PENIS and you have the audacity to ask if the relationship is salvageable??
My God I’ve never been happier to be single because obviously the bar is in hell.
Please learn to love yourself better than you are now.
Leaking peen? Sounds like gonorrhea
You should break up you’ve made up the mind already
Girl…. that’s a disease. How could you not know?? And HE’S 30???? WTF!!!! Something wrong with YOU for staying!!!
So many well groomed and attentive men who can’t seem to find a girl, yet a self centered, lazy, leaky dick is getting action. This world just ain’t fair.
Oh nooooooooo. You gotta get out of that situations dude needs to get checked for an STI.
I read your post and some of your comments.
You have been tested and have no STD’s. So his refusal to get tested is stupid but also irrelevant.
The fact that his penis leaks and smells of pee suggests incontinence rather than a STD.
He needs to see a doctor to find out why he has this problem. It’s really important. There could be an infection or something more serious.
Break up and be satisfied in knowing you grossed out a million people today.
Jesus the bar is in hell. Have some self respect. Raise your standards and leave him.
If he’s 30 and still hasn’t figured out how to actually make an effort even if it’s about not having piss in his underwear, time to go.
Lady, please, have some self respect.
Stop having sex with him. That is disgusting.
That’s a massive ick and I’m a male wtf, get out of that asap
I’m sorry but I am having a cocktail right now before having to do a PD day tomorrow for my teaching job and this thread is sending me 🤣
uh….
what?
No, it’s not savable, because you’re the only one who is in it. He’s getting everything he wants without doing anything in return.
Kick him loose and tell him why, all of it! You absolutely deserve better.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Could be BXO
What does it smell like? Like fishy or?
Either way that’s really concerning and it is appalling he isn’t taking action for his own health. I would not stay with this guy.
It is criminal how little women have grown to expect from a partner. What the absolute fuck
I doubt his genitals can even be saved.
Gross.
Welp, that’s enough internet for the day
Uhhh why did you stay so long? Thats a one time conversation and if it’s not fixed then it’s a game ender. Gross
My dick is leaking is the best line I heard in a while. I am going to use that saying next time I get down
Hi! My ex had this issue with his penis. It always smelled. He thought it was normal lmao. He gave me gonorrhea! Ended up in the er with crazy stabbing pain. Who knows how long I had it. Stop sleeping with him and go get tested. Even if he won’t.
Also my most recent man “friend” had the same issue with refusing to go get tested. He said he was scared they were going to stick a qtip in his penis. Went to get a blood and pee test and found out it was just a yeast infection I kept passing back to myself bc he wouldn’t go get tested.
I suffered for a whole year before he would even entertain the idea of getting tested. Save yourself the pain. If the tables were turned, you’d want to save the person you love from the same issue, right?
It should make you physically sick that he cares so little about your health that he won’t do that for you, and you are allowing him access to your body. To sabotage your health.
Goodbye!!!!!
Please get tested, this doesn’t sound right. I don’t think this is the guy for you.
You are allowed to end any relationship whenever you want for any reason you want.
He needs some milk.
Why would you want to save this relationship? He sounds lazy, immature and like he has an infection. Get tested and get out. I feel like I need a good shower to wash his stank off
I’m sorry what is this man bringing to the table here? You have to remind a 30 year old to pay bills, not even considering all the rancid dick parts.
he is way too old for any of this
Come on. He likely has an STI. Get tested asap.
Putting hygiene aside for a second, do you think this is something you can live with long-term? You’re already noticing these habits now, and when you bring them up, he doesn’t make an effort to change. Do you truly believe that’ll be different if you get married? (Chances are, it won’t.) So the real question is: can you accept him as he is? Your honest answer to that will tell you everything you need to know.
This is genuinely insane wdym “is this rls savable”
So it seems like you have quite a few complaints about the relationship – I do not say this in a dismissive or demeaning way. You have absolutely every right to be frustrated by your partner being willfully ignorant of your health – in refusing to read the book you gave him, and in refusing to address his hygiene in ways that could very well make you sick – and it sounds like you’re feeling rather neglected.
I merely want to point out that it sounds like – whether because of his refusal to engage, or because of a lapse in communication from another angle – you’ve built up an amount of resentment that is difficult to untangle.
Does he seem to understand how frustrated you are, or why you’re concerned about his hygiene? It isn’t your responsibility to educate him, and you seem to be feeling rather burned out on the mental load front, but understanding what the communication looks like in other areas in your relationship can help us give some specific pointers or advice.
Not to drone on forever, but a final point for now: if you want to end a relationship in your life for any reason, you are allowed to do so. No one can stop you from doing that, nor should they try. You get to decide how your life proceeds insofar as who has access to you on a personal, intimate level.
Flip the script. If this person was complaining about their girls stinky coochie yall would be throwing a fit.
Let me guess. Your BF is uncircumcised and doesn’t clean his dick and you keep getting vaginal infections.
Yes break up with him. He is gross.
He probably has an STD, madam you need to get tested, again.
Ew sounds like he’s got the clap
Girl. You couldn’t pay me to date this man. Leaky pipes aside, nothing about him is good enough? I mean, he puts in NO effort and doesn’t respect or like you at all. So all that, PLUS, his Johnny is stank? Do you love yourself? Woman to woman; leave. If you were one of my girlfriends I’d have told you to run far away! Baby, what is you doing??
Gross, get a new man.
Please don’t let that inside you!
Leaky? That’s vile. I wouldn’t accept that from a partner, male or female. Nasty.
He’s addicted to pornography.
…Why on earth are you with a 30yr old grown-ass man with a stinky dick?
Go on Amazon and search for self-esteem, because girl, you need a monthly delivery subscription.
You deserve better.
Leave and never look back wtf
Something’s going on
Can I smell yo’ dick?
Who else has he slept with besides you that he has “the drip”. Sounds like he’s not the only one that needs to see a doctor. I think you need to make a trip too because him “leaking” is definitely a concern.
Let that 🥭
Oh god no
I say RUN!!!
Man this is embarrassing.
IF THIS IS EVEN REAL, Why are you with him?
Oh, and get checked for STDs.
The peen is just the tip of your problems. You buried the lede. The fact that he makes no effort at all in your relationship is reason enough to dump his sad ass.
His dick is sick and he’s not even nice to you.
You can do better.
I don’t understand what the heck you’re doing. He sounds like a total idiot. He’s taking you for granted. Probably has an STD or some kind of health condition that needs treated, but he won’t. Mocks you, doesn’t care, blah blah.
Seriously, you’d be better off being single forever than to deal with this idiot man child.