Me and my ex been together for over a year and both loved each other through thick and thin. We did everything together from living with each other,shopping,vacations ect barely any arguments. Long story short she came here to the USA to make it her life. We met online and ever since our first date we hit it off! For over a year we did so much from living together,shopping,family events,vacations it was all perfect! But with everything perfect there’s always some sadness and her sadness was she was depressed from missing her family in her home country. And with current immigration policies it’s almost impossible for her to get a good job. So we had a long talk about it and she said she wants to go back home to her family and since I love her I agreed I don’t want her to be sad. We both agreed to end our relationship but always be there for each other and I can always go to her country to visit her and her loving family. Then one day she said “I can’t sleep in the same bed as you anymore I have to get use to sleeping alone” when she said that it hurt me because it was it felt like a punch to a face. She wanted to be separated so I moved back to my parents house all confused and sad like “why is she doing this?” Over a month later she deleted me on all social media,acts like she hates me, doesn’t even talk to me. I’m completely out of her life like nothing happened. Why would a woman do this? Even when if the break up wasn’t over something to hate someone over? Like cheating,abuse, ect
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Does she act like she hates you, or does she act like she doesn’t want to talk to you or see you or think about you?
I am confused. She asked to sleep separately and live separately and deleted you from social media…. after you guys broke up? And you’re confused why she did that?
Am I missing something? She did all this because she’s trying to move on?
Why would she do this? Currently, she is emotionally unstable. I say that not to be mean, she just has a lot to think about and is most likely scared. She probably thinks its easier to cut you out as you represent her old life.
You’ve done nothing wrong, focus on yourself and your hobbies. Distraction helps with pain. You had a life before her and you know what you like to do. Do those things. Relax too, give yourself time to have fun.
Why is always a common question, but sometimes you won’t get an answer and I suspect that even if you did, you wouldn’t like or understand the reason she gave. Don’t bother seeking out a why. It’s a waste of energy.
Good luck!
Why are you saying that she hates you? You’ve broken up and she’s put effort into separating from you, which is normal and healthy.
This is just how most break ups go. You put in the time and now that’s just all over and done with. It’s painful to look back and be reminded of what you had and what you lost. It’s easier to cut it off completely and move on than to stay friends
It’s just the path of least resistance
Your title is misleading…she isn’t acting like she randomly hates you, she’s disconnecting because it hurts too much to see you/talk to you/love you knowing the upcoming distance will make it impossible to be together. As cruel as it feels in the moment, she is doing you a huge favor right now.
Let her go, darlin’. 🦋
It sounds like she’s met someone else and is now fully monkey branched to him. If she was returning to her home country, she probably would have done it by now. Updateme
Did she ever move back? Sounds like you moved out and she stayed. I am confused.
I mean, she could have said goodbye, but people rarely stay in touch with former partners. In her case, she obviously had problems with letting go of you while in close contact. So she ended contact in order to move on.
Some people always hate their ex’s. It’s not about you. It’s the fact that you are an ex. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism. Out of sight out of mind.
You did choose to end things instead of not ending it. Im not sure what you really wanted. If you wanted her in your life it sounds like you could have made that choice. It’s rejection and people don’t like that.