My husband and I have been married 3.5 years, together 7 years total. I am very career-driven and a big goal in my life is to climb the corporate ladder as high as it will let me go, which my husband knows and has always been supportive of even though he has no desire to climb higher than his current role.
Today I was approached by my company with an amazing new job opportunity making significantly more than my current salary (100k->170k) but the catch is that I would need to move (Ohio->Florida). I brought the idea home to my husband and he broke down very upset & adamant that he does not want to move. His reason is that his very close friends live in the same city as us currently and he does not want to move away from them.
Some backstory that is relevant- my husband’s brother died in a car accident when he was 16 and so my husband’s friends are actually his brother’s friends and they became close after his death 18 years ago. So my husband feels that moving away from his friends is like moving away from the memory of his brother. My husband is also very introverted and has a difficult time making friends outside of people that I introduce him to (I’m very extroverted). His parents snowbird 2 hours from where we’d be moving to, so this would not pull him away from his family.
We’ve reached an impasse and it’s lead me to looking for outside advice. What would you do? Obviously I don’t want to force him to move and be miserable but I also am extremely sad when thinking about turning down this opportunity. Unsure a compromise exists.
TLDR; amazing new job opportunity but it’s 1,000 miles away and husband does not want to move