Hello everyone, I would like to get some advice on something that has been on my mind for awhile now. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost six years. We have moved to the UK together from abroad and have lived together for five years and even own a cat together.
But as the years go by, I realised that we are very different people. To name a few, I am a generally tidy person and she is a very messy person, she has almost all the love for the world whereas I feel like self preservation of those I care about are the most important, I am punctual whereas she is almost late to everything. She tries to do everything at the same time and finished nothing whereas I tried to complete one thing before starting another, completing things slowly but surely. I am emotionally resilient and she is very emotionally reactive. I am a morning person and she is a night owl. We were brought up differently, she is an only child and I have three siblings. I work in a corporate company and she cannot handle the office lifestyle and is a part time boutique shop clerk. She is a very honest and genuine person and I am definitely a lot more calculative and reserved person. She is sporadic and cannot plan things ahead and I am only so malleable without a proper schedule. She is time blind and I always am aware of what time it is. If it appeals to you, she is a Gemini and I am a Capricorn, our compatibility is near impossible and the thing that keeps us sane is the important tool of communication. She is a great communicator and I sometimes struggle to gather my thoughts.
You get the gist. Endless examples of how different our lifestyles and approaches to scenarios can sometimes be.
However, we share common interests and common humour, culture, ways of interpretation and speech (eh. Baby voices or teasing voices etc etc.) and we honestly had good and fun times together. She has taught me how to communicate my feelings and thoughts better. I sometimes believe that I bring her back down to earth and she makes my life more interesting and colourful and I hope it’s vice versa too. But I don’t know if this is something sustainable in the long run, are we taking up each others time by staying with each other who are very different people and are only together for the occasional great and wonderful time? I am aware that we compromise for each other and we’re not here to fix each other and more like to grow together as a couple. But I just don’t know if this is it for the rest of our lives if we choose to settle down with each other…
Thank you.
TLDR: In a 6 year long-term relationship with a person that is 85-90% different to me, are we together to complete and compliment each others lives or have we been taking up each others time for too long now and is now too comfortable to leave?