Normally for Christmas I’d spend Christmas eve, Christmas day and most of Boxing day with my mum and sister then go to my girlfriends mums on the evening of boxing day for the night to spend time with my gf and her mum.
This year my mum passed away and my sister will be spending Christmas in another city with her son. My girlfriend has invited me to her mums which I’ve accepted but I said I probably will need a few hours to myself so I’ll probably go home on the afternoon for a while then come back in the evening.
My gf asked why and I just said it’s going to be a hard day and I just need some time alone. She said I shouldn’t be spending most of the day on my own but I pointed out it won’t be most of the day. She said I should be spending it all at her mums but I just repeated again that I’d need some time for myself. I said it’s hardly a big deal and I’d still be at her mums for most of it.
She just said I should be with them and should plan some time alone another day but I refused.
Does anyone have any other perspectives on this or have any advice on how best to approach the situation?
Tl;dr mum passed away this year and I plan to take a few hours to myself on Christmas Day. My girlfriend said I shouldn’t be spending a lot of time on my own and should choose another day.
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Respecting each other other private space and time is critically important for mental health among other reasons. If she does not understand and respect that then it is a problem and will be a bigger problem down the line.
We are born and we are our own person before any relationship. This is the number 1 thing to understand. Being comfortable in your own skin and at peace with yourself is not something anybody can achieve.