I specify childhood best friends because after highschool we really haven’t talked. We’ve talked 2 or 3 times over the past several years, the last time being at least a year or two ago.
Middle school through highschool though we were best friends and spent more days than not hanging out.
I was scrolling Tinder this afternoon and this girl looked familiar. I kept trying to place where I knew her and finally it clicked. It’s my buddies wife.
I asked my buddy what’s up, just trying to catch the drift if they’re still together or what’s up. He said they’re doing alright. Do I just rip the band aid off and tell him??
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Ask him if they’re doing enm /open relationship, then if he answers no….
Are you truly his friend? If so then tell him. It’s that simple. Make sure you have your proof first. He may try to deny it or call you crazy if you do not have solid proof. Screenshots will go a long way. Bro’s before h*%s
You don’t have anything to lose since you’re not really close anymore. So
Writes the messenger is killed. Especially if they work things out. The wife won’t like you and push you out.
I however personally would want to know.
Some people don’t.
How do you know they’re still together?
Just message him, preferably with a screenshot. Tell him, hey came across, not sure if some bot is using the photos or what but figured I’d let you know
Is it possible it’s a fake profile that is using her PFP to fish for guys? I did hear of something like that happening before so I’d look further into it just to make sure it’s her.
Send a screenshot of her tinder. Either he’ll say they do it on purpose or find out his wife is cheating.
UPDATE: just called him on the phone to catch up a little and his life has been ROUGH. Got laid off, just got in a terrible car accident that’s he’s at fault for and is gonna get either sued or something. Been out of work for a few months. I’m worried this will send him over the edge?!
screenshot the profile and send it to him. Just say you wanted to make sure he was aware. that’s it
Screenshot everything and send it to your friend. You can do it anonymously.
Bang her
There could be things behind the scenes that make this not as bad as it looks. They could have an open marriage or she might be trying to find a third for them. Your friend might have a hot wife kink that she’s fulfilling for him.
You said the only bio is a Snapchat link? That is not something that legitimate profiles have. That is only for sex workers and/or scams related to the sex work industry. No real woman – even if she’s just looking for a fling – does this. It means you’re going to get inundated with really bad dick pics from guys who can’t get matches.
So realistically, either someone stole her pictures (common) or she’s doing some sort of sex work/Only Fans (less common), with or without her husband’s knowledge.
Running the screenshots through Google Images is a quick way to gauge if maybe her pics have been stolen – if there are a lot of hits, that’s a sure sign of theft. Or if she has more than 1K followers on social media and her account is public, she’s more susceptible to her images being stolen. If the pictures on the profile only match up with pictures of her social media, that’s also a sure sign that it’s not a legitimate profile.
There’s also the possibility that you’re mistaken.
Personally, I’m curious so I’d probably do some light digging. And if I could one percent without a doubt confirm that it’s her, I’d probably send my friend the screenshots and say something like “just wanted to let you and your wife know that it looks like a bot stole her pictures for a fake account”. That assumes the best and lets everyone save face, and gives your friend the privacy he ends to either hide his kink/open marriage or confront his wife’s secret life.
Just send him a screenshot of her profile and say “I don’t mean to impose or get in your business or anything, but I just saw this profile on Tinder and wanted to let you know.” Idk you mean well by showing him, leave the ball in his court. That’s how I would do it anyways
You should message her first. This could be an old account. Are you sure she is actively looking?
I’d send him the screenshot stating I think someone has stolen your wife’s identity. That’s all. No need to get in the weeds as it’s not your thing to deal with.
Tell him so he knows to get tested.