Hello all, throwaway here.
My ex and I broke up about a month ago after being together for two years because she thought I was having sex with multiple women. (I did not). She says unless I can find proof that I didn’t have sex with them, she won’t get back together with me. I very much love her and I have been trying to find evidence but not much is showing up. She reached out to all of the women and one of them did tell her we had sex during the span of our relationship which can’t be true though we likely did have sex not long before making it official. So asking her to tell my gf the correct date isn’t an option. All of the women, I have had sex with, but not while I was in a relationship.
I’d love to not reach out to these women as the last time I tried to do that (through the phone) my ex called her multiple expletives and promptly ended the phone call. So you can imagine I’m not in good standing with the other woman.
Weird situation I know, if anyone has any ideas that I could do, data to find, etc I would appreciate it. All of my communications with the women have been deleted which I know now only makes me more suspicious. The plan was to completely block and erase them from all socials so she can see that I have no issue with removing the issue.
TLDR: does anyone know of any strategies one could employ to prove that you did not have sex with another woman apart from asking that woman to confirm
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bro she not lookin for proof she lookin for control if she wanted to trust u she would already do it
If it’s gotten to the point you broke up and you “have to prove you didn’t cheat”, it’s over already.
Have some dignity, OP.
You can’t prove a negative, and it’s not healthy to be in a relationship with someine like this.
Break up and find someone less toxic.
You move on. That is the best strategy.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet. A sane person in a functional relationship would need proof you did cheat.
Your ex is lying about the date that woman told her. You need to walk away from this mess and block her forever. People who put you through these bullshit tests are never worth dating.
Look OP, as a woman, I feel I can freely say that what your ex-girlfriend is asking of you is stupid. I think you’d feel much happier in relationship with someone who isn’t demanding proof of something you can’t really provide. Y’all aren’t even dating anymore. Count that as a blessing and move on to something better.
you cant prove a negative. that is a fools errand. she has you running circles to do something that in the end wont matter because she has made up her mind. I will add that look at the way she behaved here just from your post. you might love her but buddy, long term that is a whole lot of drama and conflict that you do not want.
Sounds like she is projecting… walk away and find someone who won’t play games with you
Ok. Take a time out. This is cringy and needs to be shut down immediately. Really. Separation means we are no longer connected, bonded or obligated. It means you owe each other nothing.
This is insecurities and possible projections, her contacting and stirring up unnecessary conflict and unnecessary stress. She her response and reaction was not emotionally healthy.
Only you know what you did. Only she knows what she did and focusing on the problems of yesterday prevents you from searching for solutions, and working towards a better tomorrow.
Change directions. If it was me I’d say something like hey I did some self reflecting and thinking about moving forward and working on a better tomorrow. Propose a truce. Clean slate. Start over. If this is something you want let’s work together as a team, brainstorm, plan tor today, tomorrow and 3 months and have check points.
I am ready to give you the time and space you need to consider this and will be available. A response should be within 30 days. If more time is needed that can be discussed then.
Take the time to invest in yourself the return on investment is priceless. Best wishes ⭐️
I only read the first two sentences and then I stopped because a) this isn’t possible to prove and b) this request is a sign she doesn’t trust you and isn’t a reasonable person. If she doesn’t trust you move on the relationship is dead. You can’t create trust this way