I used to shave, but shaving caused me major discomfort. No matter what I did, I had razor burn and ingrown hairs. So I stopped shaving. I started trimming a few years back after a really bad case after shaving.
I try to keep it tidy, but sometimes it grows out and I don’t have the energy to tidy up the hair. So lately I trim, plan to keep up with it, other things get in the way and it grows out, then I trim.
I had full bush for a bit. And my husband worked late. I decided I would trim it as a surprise next time we were together. Because by the time he got home, I’d be asleep.
The time came and I took off my clothes and he was shocked I trimmed. He asked who it was for. I told him it was for him. He didn’t believe me it was for him, he assumed it was for someone else.
I don’t know what to do to let him know it was for him. I haven’t been consistent lately because of my job and stuff at home. But I just wanted to surprise him.
How can I get him to know I did it for him? No one else?
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Get him to know? To me, his reaction was a really strange response and not something that I would let go or take lightly. If he thinks you’re cheating on him and you’re not, you got to find out why he thinks that. Like where does a reaction like that come from?
Mabye he’s projecting?
Why the fuck would he assume his wife was trimming her pubes for someone else?? Why did he get married with that attitude
Let him read this for a start. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It seems absurd to me he would act that way.
Good luck
This is less about trimmed, not shaved, pubes, which is fantastic by the way, and more about his insecurity. Has he shown this in the past or had a reason to express this type of insecurity before?
Your question was asking how you can let him know it was for him… that’s easy. Tell him again and, unless he has a valid reason to feel insecure about it, tell him that you love him, not be foolish, blah, blah, blah.
If your husbands automatic assumption is that its for cheating… You married bad.
You shouldn’t have to convince your husband of this.
This should just be:
>Its for you. If you don’t believe it, then we have some serious trust issues to discuss on your side.
Because if you’re thinking:
>Maybe if I show him my phone, that will prove my innocence since he doesn’t believe my word.
Then you already lost the battle for standing up for your own self-respect.
Does he often jump to the worst possible conclusion in regards to your actions? And then not believe you when you explain? This is not the type of reaction you’d expect from a healthy, trusting relationship
Next time have him trim it for you
The only time I’ve ever had someone come at me like that for something, they were cheating and projecting.
I think he’s projecting because he’s cheating
This can’t be the only time he’s thrown you off course and demanded (sort of) that you prove your fidelity…right?
People who assume the worst from their partners are usually the ones up to the worst. Just sayin.’
He’s projecting 🫣🤫
Has your intimacy together decreased lately? Maybe he’s feeling insecure because you two aren’t very connected sexually right now? Either way I find that accusation bizarre, it would really hurt me to be accused of cheating for basic grooming habits. Have another discussion with him, only he knows why he said that.