Exactly as the title says… dunno shit has gone south in our relationship guess you can ama
Thanks for all the questions and advice, sorry I had to cut it short need to feed the kids! Have a nice day
I (33m) have seen my wife (32f) naked <10 times in 2 years ama
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Why are you both in this shit of a relationship yet?
Have you both tried talking?
Any solution?
Why the AMA? What are you hoping to get out of this?
Been there. Your marriage is over, deal with it as soon as possible or face the consequences.
Leave bro! You got kids
Would you say your relationship has soured or are you two both just tired and worn out and going through the motions?
Wait wait… is it good or bad when you see her naked?
You talk about it. If she loves you then she will understand. My wife knows physical touch is my love language and we bang almost every night. Just talk to her. If she doesn’t then it’s easy to move on. I’d be long gone if my wife didn’t touch me for a week, yet alone longer.
Start going to the gym man that’s all I can say. It will help you.
I’m 31, got out a relationship I thought was going to be forever… It gets better. Stable guys with a job and a level brain are in demand
Have you tried reading Athol Kay’s books?
Self love and self care first. Take care of your mental health , and do what lets you feel better about yourself.
If you decide to end the relationship, try your (both of you) very best to make sure you do so without resentment, for the sake of your kids. They stand on the ground of your wifes and yours relationship.
Congrats!!! That’s a strange flex.
Listen, it sounds like you want your wife. I guess that’s why you’re here. If you want to fight for her. Start by fighting for yourself. I read a few of your comments, and see your health is compromised. I know it’s tough, but pour in to yourself both mentally and physically. That will change and shift the energy in the house. You will feel more alive, and ultimately you will show up for both your children and your wife. You say your wife is bored and lost hope, and both of you are unhappy, and yet you’re both still there.
Get your physical and mental health together. I encourage you to see a therapist, a doctor and possibly start by walking around your neighborhood. Bring your kids! Make it fun!
Even if your relationship is over, you will leave with your dignity and your wife will at best, respect you.
I’m rooting for you OP!!!
10 years here and I’m not joking I have never once seen my wife naked. Not once. It’s infuriating but she’s a great woman who I love very much so I look past it, is it an insecure thing?
Go see a marriage counselor. Unless your conversations are making you both feel like your needs are expressed, having a trained 3rd person to facilitate some conversations can help a lot.
Dude, or dudet,
Life is to be enjoyed. Your wife or husband is to be enjoyed.
In ways you both blush at the world knowing. And in ways you want kings or presidents to know you fucked on their things.
A healthy marriage or fuck buddy has an expectation. Yeah kids and health will fuck with that. But if you are not getting it on regularly then there is a problem
I’ve seen his wife naked 10> times in 2 weeks, AMA
It’s never too late to start over; no matter what starting over looks like.
I am sorry you are going through this OP. Only thing I can say is that me (40m) and my wife (41f) have been together since we were 16 and married for 20 years, there are of course up and down moments and marriage can definitely take some work, for instance in the past two-three years we have unfortunately lost all four parents, three of them in the same year (plus my step mother of suicide) (my mom and her father of covid, my father lung cancer) then a few months ago her mom passed of suicide as well. Now out of nowhere my wife got a promotion making it necessary for us to move states quickly adding to the chaos.
Through all that and more neither of us would dream of being married to or being with another person, even in the unhappy hard times we are still happy to have each other.
Point i’m trying to make is that you both deserve to live life with someone who makes you happy, even if that person is yourself. Good luck OP, I wish you all the best!
By the way your username is the shit.
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Boohoo. The fact that THAT title is how you frame your failing relationship says a lot.
Give couples counseling a go, maybe try some romantic gestures to initiate to show you are still interested (plan a night out, doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful and a night just for the 2 of you.)
You need to start paying the electric bill.
That’s a huge red flag.
Kids are great but they can drain the romance out of a relationship. Not their fault cute as heck and your future, but sexual drive and kids for most people have an inverse relationship, probably for evolutionary reasons. If you can afford it, get a babysitter, get away from the kids, a bit, have some romance and rated R activities, relaxation, and diversions injected back into your life, more like what got you both interested in each other in the first place, away from the kids or at least when they are out of the house somewhere else with confidence so everyone can relax.