I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half with a really wonderful woman. I intend to marry her and love her dearly. Lately her and one of her close friends have been having a weekly girl’s night at her friend’s place with a couple other women.
I have come to realize that one of the women in this group is a woman I had a one night stand with about 12/13 years ago. It wasn’t fun at all and we never talked again. I totally forgot she existed. She works at a local bar that my gf frequents with her friends and I have been face to face with this woman a couple of times. She looks completely different and has probably put on 100lbs. There was a moment very recently where I put two and two together and it all came back to me.
I want to be forthcoming with my girlfriend as I don’t feel that this is a big deal. She and I both have had our pasts and accept each other. However, my gf can be insecure at times which makes me afraid of sparking some sort of incident by revealing this info. I also don’t want her to feel weird with her friend group when I tell her this. Unsure of how to best proceed.
tl;dr: I (35M) realized that my GF (31F) of one year is becoming friends with a woman (30sF) I hooked up with over a decade ago. Nervous to tell her because she is becoming closer to this group of friends and her own insecurity.