Two days ago me and my “gf” were looking at her phone and a mans name texted her, i asked her who it was since i didnt recognize it and she said no one just a friend, instantly my gut told me something is going on, then later that day we were driving and i seen her texting with a heart emoji, i pulled over and asked her who she is texting, she said no one so i asked ” if its no one can i see” she deleted i, my anxiety shot up , i broke up with her and she came crying later that day telling me to trust her and to check her phone to prove she wasnt cheating, she doesnt know i checked her deleted messages and saw she has been seeing three other guys, and to top it all off she lives with her cousin and brother and in the text message the “cousin” is really her bf that she lives with so the whole time i am the other guy, we have been “dating” for nine months, it seems from the texts that they cheat on each other, i know the “relationship” is over but it still hurts, i need some tough love from you guys please , i did care about the person she appeared to be , should tell her i saw the messages?
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>should tell her i saw the messages?
She’ll know. Believe me OP, she’ll know exactly why you have ghosted her.
And she also will know that she deserved it.
The breakup will hurt for a time and then it won’t and you’ll move on with your life. That’s just the way it is.
But know this. Life is too short to put up with being cheated on and cheaters deserve nothing but the silence of us no longer being in their life because of their own actions.
What advice are you needing? You did the right thing.
I’m so sorry that this happened to you, I wish the best for you and your future and hope you one day find someone that will value you and stick by you. If you think it’ll make you feel better to let her know that you knew, then go for it, I don’t find that to be an issue. But only do it for yourself, she doesn’t deserve any reason for why you left.
Yes. Tell her you saw the messages. And be clear it’s over and please, do not take her back.
Woman who cheat already have no respect for the person they’re cheating on and if you take her back (don’t know how that would work with her already having a boyfriend) she will have no respect for you. Or even less.
Be strong. You’re going to be alright, even if it doesn’t feel that way now.
You don’t need tough love mate, but someone to lean on, you got played and that’s shit
Yeah i know it feels like a punch to the gut, i know that sounds pathetic but i did care about her
Damn! That’s really messed up.
You were right to break up with her. She was nothing but a facade, OP, she wasn’t real. You may have seen bits and pieces of her, but she’s a pathological liar and master manipulator, or at least she appears to be one.
You could tell her about seeing the deleted texts, but if she ever pulled this cheating stunt again, she may get away with it because she’ll be smarter.
Make sure you get tested for STIs, her trashy “lifestyle” put you at risk
She lies about everything , i can show her a message where shes talking about sex and she will say it wasnt her lol
Here’s the gut punch you’re looking for.
Let her the fuck go, and get out there and make yourself happy until you find someone worth it. Pick your head up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. As far as telling her about the messages? Hell yeah. Give her a piece of your mind & then block her.
Yes i am believe me
You don’t need any advice or tough love man. You did the right thing so good for you. It’s going to sting for a bit but in the long run you will be VERY glad you didn’t stay with that mess of a person. You don’t owe her any explanation or justification for leaving. In fact I’d go as far as to say her dumb lying ass doesn’t even deserve an explanation but I can also be a bit petty. Just take some time off to focus on yourself and adjust to life again as a single man. Enjoy the money you’re saving now
Oh well, she moved herself than. You can celebrate!
Thanks
take the other 3 guys out for beers and tell them all
Propose her a threesome to forgive her. Have the threesome and then breakup
I dont think they even care about her like that it seems like they are just hook ups
Im pretty sure she will say if we can be friends with benefits