I am a 38 year old guy (39 this year ) and I have had trouble finding employment for a few years, it seems no one is hiring or I don’t meat this standard, I’m not sure.
I have a beautiful fiancé, savings for a few months, great family but I cannot pull myself out of this sad, hopeless and scared feeling. I’ve been struggling for a while.
Is there anyone else who shares this feeling or experience, or has in the past, and can give advice?
Thank you all in advance!
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Sure I feel the same.
But I do have a job (it’s pretty one as well) crazy debt, and no savings, no fiancée.
Now my question is would you trade places with me?
Society has inundated men that we are to be providers. I’m not saying it’s right, but you’re probably feeling bad because you don’t feel like you’re providing due to the employment situation. My advice would be to find as many ways to be helpful to family, friends, and society at large (ie volunteering) when you aren’t focused on finding employment. That way you can feel needed.
what kind of work have you done in the past. what are your skills
How do you guys get by for years looking for employment? I worry with the ways things are that I finally may get laid off, and worry about how quickly shit will fall apart, but lasting years seems almost impossible.
Yeah, I was lucky my mom works for the state government. So I was able to get in but I started the very bottom and have been working my way up.
Look for state government job.
Start applying/taking a retail job or something similar. It’s generally easy to get hired. It’s usually low pay, but, it’s something to where you at least have some money coming in while you look for something better.
I’m not currently struggling with employment but I’m recently single, and have two children of my own, the world can be a cold place sometimes. I’m 37 years old and not feeling optimistic about my future. The feeling of fear and dread is real. Hopefully this is just another bump in the road towards great things. Fingers crossed?
Switch careers. There’s entry level stuff, even if it’s high turnover. Go for it.
It may seem beneath you, but have you ever considered a Commercial Driver License? Depending on your ability to learn I know plenty of drivers that make upwards of $75k a year, some even more if you are willing to grind it out. I am not talking over the road, but a dump truck driver or even a concrete truck. The hours are there and there’s never a shortage of companies hiring. Some companies may even train you to drive and help pay to get the license. This is in the USA, btw.