I’m 43M, and she’s 42F. I met her on Bumble. When we first connected, she was also talking to a couple of other guys. After going out several times and developing a relationship, she decided to let them go. We decided to focus on just us and commit to a relationship. We’re not living together, and we don’t want to yet. We enjoy each other in all aspects. The L-word was said, and it’s intense. She’s very social—not a party person, but she likes having lots of friends.
She now wants to reconnect with one of the guys from Bumble because she feels bad for kind of ghosting him. She says he knew she just wanted friendship, and the times they went out were clearly in that context. Now, she’s asking if I’m okay with her going out with him as friends. The last thing she wants is to hurt me in any way.
I told her I wouldn’t feel comfortable with the situation, but I can’t tell her what to do. I just asked her to protect what we have, just as I’m doing.
What are your thoughts? Let me know. Thanks!
TLDR: GF wants to reconnect with a Bumble friend.
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Find a new girlfriend. She intends to do more than talk.
UpdateMe
Would not work for me …. Your choice but I vote no and if she really see’s any value in your relationship she’ll drop the idea
Wouldn’t wanna be you lol
Just say you’re not comfortable with it. Her asking as a possible red flag, guy. I have the good sense not to say this shit to my girlfriend from first month to year 2. Definitely don’t let your guard down.