I am the middle child of my family, the one everyone blames, hates or just pretend they aren’t there. It all started around february 2025, when i was at my lowest, and decided to quote “end it all”, and i did, i almost cut my neck off, yet survived for a miracle. I was recovered at the hospital for about a week before getting discharged and moving to Rome, where i am now. The day my parents see me come home, they were shocked and kind of frustrated. They told me to “Pack my bags and move it” like i fully recovered, but did as they said. Going towards Rome, my parents kept talking about my situation: That’s what “made the vase spill”, i was furious and ended up listening to music for the rest of the ride. When we got there, i locked myself in my room and just thinked in pure silence. Just silence. I haven’t even looked at them in the eyes ever since. Should i apologize?
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They should be the ones to apologize to you. I hope you are doing better and if not, I hope everything is better soon. You deserve the best, even if I don’t know you.
We apologize to people who should have apologized to us ❤️
Good hearts suffer on this planet.
Do not apologize. Please do not.
no
you don’t owe an apology for barely surviving what they never protected you from
you didn’t “make the vase spill”
you broke from carrying too much for too long in silence
and their response?
treating your trauma like an inconvenience—that’s the real betrayal
you don’t need to be cruel
but don’t twist yourself into guilt just because they couldn’t show up with love when it actually mattered
if anything—they should be apologizing to you
for ignoring the pain
for blaming you instead of helping
for being more upset about the fallout than the fact that you almost died
right now?
your only job is healing
rebuilding a self that doesn’t constantly question its right to exist
you survived
don’t waste that miracle trying to earn the approval of people who treated your survival like an inconvenience
How long has it been since you stopped talking to them? I am assuming they know why you were upset.
It sounds like you had good reason to be upset. I’m so sorry you were so unhappy you hurt yourself, and I hope you are feeling much better now. I wish they had been more understanding and caring at the time.
Are they angry with you? Are they asking you to apologize?
I’m not saying you should apologize but how long do you want to avoid talking to them? How was your relationship with them before this? How long do you plan to have a wall between you and your parents? If you have had a very toxic relationship with your parents then everyone might be better off just co-existing peacefully until you are able to move out on your own.
I hope your relationship has been better than that. If so, consider going ahead and getting back on speaking terms.
They know you are angry—think about forgiving, or at least, letting go of the anger. They may have “kept talking about it,” out of worry and concern for you. When you’re ready you can discuss how you felt when they kept on talking about your attempt. Instead of something like “you just kept on and on talking” you could say, for example, “I felt (hurt, anxious, uncomfortable, etc,) when you kept talking. I was terribly depressed and going on about it made it worse. “. Share that in a non-judgmental way, a factual rather than negative way so they might be able to see your perspective. Otherwise they will feel attacked and probably be defensive.
(By the way, so called “I” messages (rather than “You…”) help the other person understand your feelings, and are a good way to talk to people when having there’s a conflict.)
Whether you start to speak with them or not, the sooner you can let go of the anger the better. That’s for your own well being.
Remember life is short. You can be “right,” and angry, or you can move on from that day, as hard as it may seem. We are all carrying baggage. When we can let go the baggage is a little lighter. . It’s your decision.
Warm thoughts and I’m glad you’re still here. ❤️