hi everyone just letting u know i won’t be responding to messages and will report any weirdos but i just turned 18 and i feel the same. i live with my grandma and she has a bunch of rules like one 1. i have to be downstairs all day until 7 pm 2. i cant go up at 7 without asking 3. i must ask for any snack 4. i have to put mmy phone in her room and charge it everyday at 9:30 or 10:30 on the weekends 5. when i get home from school i have to be downstairs immediately after i change. i’m hoping this will change but is this normal?? what should i do if this doesnt change
i am 18 and i feel 13
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Hey there! It sounds like your grandma’s rules are pretty strict for an 18-year-old, and it’s totally normal to feel frustrated maybe try having an open, calm conversation with her about how you’re feeling and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you! 💛
Growing up is just accepting if you play barbie you arent childish you are just you, just hoping wont do anything you must change yourself
I’m 26 and I feel like I’m 19 still lol
you need to get a job and move tf out.
is there any friend you can stay with? you are a legal adult, what are you waiting for?
Also, if you pay for your phone, she can’t take that away from you.
You should move out. Otherwise, you follow her rules or pay rent. If you pay significant rent, ask for a rule change. Otherwise, you are 13, you don’t just feel 13. This is coming from someone who isn’t doing well either, but better to learn at 18 than when you’re in your 30s like my loser ass
If you’re an average/ normal 18 year old then it seems a little much.
Depends on why she has these rules. Is she just super controlling? Does she not think you’re mature? Were you previously in trouble? Are your grades bad?
Yea be more independent. Have a job or something so that you’re not home all day?
Like what my dad used to say “my house, my rules, if you dont like it move out” So I moved out lol
Yes it’s usually normal for people to have rules in order for you to stay in their home and maybe there is some missing information about what brought you to live with your grandmother but honestly if that’s the rules to keep a roof over your head then until you get a job and your own place then do what you gotta do.