We have been together 1 year and moved in 2 months and just has our anniversary together. Before that few weeks we went to his friend wedding and we had a great picture. My bf never post anything on Instagram (he has 0 post number). It wouldn’t bother me too much of posting or not posting but it was a great picture and he didn’t even repost it when I tagged him. He said he is shy.
But then when I posted and tag him few days later he delete his Instagram account and said that he want to reduce his screen time.
And recently I found out that during the month I went back my home country to visit my family for 6 weeks, at the second week he texted girls on Instagram and said that it was just new year or happy birthday, but those girls are his ex dates, and he texted things like
“hey looking good on stories, I miss talking to you, let’s have a call” (we were at month 6, I already went well in the relationship, meet his parents, family, we even go shopping before Christmas for our both family members etc.)
or recently in May I found out a strange account he also texted with and before the time we dated it was obviously sexual and flirty (it did not seem too flirty after the time we dated).
So basically… I am loosing trust…
I honestly don’t know how to keep calm and continue but beside this, we are doing so well…
I also found out there’s a new intern at his workplace and he mentioned to me she was hot, and then I know he was trying to look for her on Facebook…
My mind said it is okay, everyone has friends and privacy relationship. He introduced me to all his physical friend circle and family… no need for posting on media…
My intuition says something is wrong, why is he avoiding posting on IG where he still text and flirt girls…. and when I tried to mention it he said everything stopped since September last year but like I saw he still texted and flirt in Jan and May even now….and now this new intern Facebook search…was it just platonically a colleague thing cause every one has colleague….
I honestly don’t want to be a control freak in this matter but he gave me so much insecurities with these actions and I don’t know how to bring this up without violating his privacy…
TL;DR; : I am 26F and my bf 27M, he never posted me on social media and still text his old dates on Instagram after 1 year together.