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I am just tired

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Well that silent treatment from her didn’t last long. She started messaging when it got closer to LO’s birthday.

I just can’t deal with her and her husband. I am angry at myself for not calling her out right then and there. I am angry and just tired….

I don’t know if I am overreacting but there are a few things that happened yesterday

  1. She had abit of cough and used her hand to cover her mouth when she coughed. GREAT…but then she also uses that same hand unsanitized touching LO’s face and hand. Last time she did have a cough, she claimed it was just allergies. She says the cough yesterday was from the food..right..she coughed at different parts of dinner.

  2. Everything is transactional with her and her husband. She gave LO a little gift and asks for a hug. Her husband was even worse..witholding the gift and only give it to LO after LO does something he wants. One of the key reason why I don’t want anything from her.

  3. She is obsessed with us going over to her house for dinner but she only asks DH because she knows he is more likely to say yes. I have no interest in going over there. I have no interest in interacting with her. Going over there just makes me feel like I can’t escape.

Overall, seeing her touch LO just triggers me. That fake affection, boundary pushing and manipulation..I am just fed up. I am done being a doormat. I am done interacting with someone who has disrespected me. I am done having someone I love so deeply being manipulated by such a fake person.

I hate this..and I hate her.

Comments

  1. botinlaw Avatar
    botinlaw

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  2. fitb3ux Avatar
    fitb3ux

    Nah, you’re not overreacting. That’s textbook boundary trampling and emotional manipulation. Protect your peace, your kid’s health and your sanity come first. Dump the guilt and shut that door firmly.

  3. SpaceCrazyArtist Avatar
    SpaceCrazyArtist

    My MiL and SFiL do this too. I just say, “oh Nana and Baba are being so silly of COURSE you dont have to hug to get gifts! Affection is never transactional.” Even when my daughter didnt really understand I would still say this. After a year and a half they’ve gotten the message and don’t do it anymore.

    Just start talking to your daughter about them and they’ll catch on.

    But honestly you need to talk to your husband and tell him that you wont do this anymore. If he wants a relationship that’s on him but you dont.

  4. Trekunderthemoon Avatar
    Trekunderthemoon

    Put a stop to them refusing things to your daughter unless she hugs them etc. that is disgusting. It teaches children to ignore their own instincts and wants in deference to others. 

  5. DesperateOne416 Avatar
    DesperateOne416

    Why was she around your LO after a month of the silent treatment?

    Meaning, why was she allowed around LO after throwing a temper tantrum?

    Edited to add second question for clarification