I F22, as a whole have had bad luck with crushes. Either the attraction was one sided or I realised I realistically wouldn’t want to be with them.
I am queer but never been in any relationship with a guy. I met this guy on Hinge who is only in my town to visit family. He lives on the other side of the world and is going into a career that basically isolates you from family and friends a lot (even in his home country.) The next time we would possibly see each other realistically would be 2-3 years.
We have been hanging out for the past few days and I fear he is the closest thing I’ve gotten to a guy I liked and is my type which is something I never imagined would happen tbh. I didn’t really get the ick like I usually do or feel uncomfortable. I am getting worried because this person actually seems so sweet and if anything, I would want to be around them as friends.
I am no stranger to feeling like someone will not ever reach up to a particular person. But in the past, it has been my fantasied version of someone I vaguely interacted with but this time it feels different. Hence I suppose why this worries me even more, though I know comparing others can be problematic.
I know we are not going to get super close for me to confirm this is the ‘perfect’ person and everything will end well. But this short time, seems to leave just enough time to know and become sentimental but not enough to fully get to know the person and be aware of their flaws. I know this may just be a short sweet thing about learning a lesson without it being super deep but..
I suppose I am writing this for some advice on how to deal with it or some reassurance that it will be okay. I feel a sense of doom coming and I am worried this will strain my mental health in some way.
I would appreciate anything!
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How long have you been talking to this guy?