Physical strength I mean. It pains me to know I will never be able to beat a man if he attacked me,I will never be able to outrun him,and that I’m essentially cooked if a man decide to attack me. I could have the most caring man in the world, but if one day he decides to rape me,physically I could do nothing. Is anyone else pained by this like I am ?
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Learn Krav Maga. See this reference on reddit for self defense for women: https://www.reddit.com/r/martialarts/comments/1bje3ep/krav_maga_or_brazilian_jiujitsu_for_female/
I’m fully grown at 5’0”. So yes, I do think about this a lot.
Although barring disability, there’s every chance you could outrun the average man if you took up running. Lighter, more compact bodies are good for running and a lot of men carry weight in their stomach which makes it harder to run well.
Your main point stands though; if he’s at all fit, we have little to no chance.
Don’t give up in advance. Women have fought and won against male attackers.
Susan Kuhnhausen was 51 years old when her husband hired a hitman to kill her. The hitman clocked her with a hammer, and she killed the hitman. https://blurredbylines.com/articles/susan-kuhnhausen-walters-survivor-hitman-portland/
Sorry, guy here. Effective martial arts (Boxing, Muay Thai, BJJ, Wrestling) and training with concealed weapons (pistols, daggers) can level the playing field.
To train hard enough to be a woman that can beat the average man is difficult but certainly not out of reach. In both Muay Thai and BJJ I have been outmatched by many ladies.
The good news is that it’s not as hopeless as it seems. Good self-defense training can teach you how to escape (key word, not win) encounters with people — including men — who are physically stronger than you. You can never be completely safe, no one can, but having training and a plan can help alleviate your anxieties.
A lot of men don’t know how to fight. If this has you stressed, learn to fight. Don’t marry a huge man, if he only has an inch or two on you in height he will not be so much stronger that you cant possibly win (only kind of joking). If you’re really worried look up legality of carrying weapons where you live. Even some bear spray levels the playing field IF you have practiced and know how to use it.
I agree that it freaks me out that most men are so much stronger than me, but I will also say I’m 32 and so far it has not been a problem. The first time a man tries to intimidate you physically they need to be cut out of your life. By the time they’re hitting walls or throwing things at you it’s red alert leave now even if it means leaving your job. The advice to never let them hit you a second time is good advice, but I think it’s better to leave while they’re still testing to see how much you can put up with.
I fully trust my husband and know he’d never hurt me. But it definitely triggers a lizard part of my brain when we play fight or he unintentionally hurts me. If this man who loves me and wants to protect me can overpower me so easily I can’t imagine trying to fight off a man who is trying to hurt me.
I saw a quote like the strongest woman can still be overpowered by a teenage boy. It’s so soul crushing to be so fully aware of how fragile we are in comparison and that men are more often the more violent of our species.
what you’re saying here isn’t entirely false, but it’s not really true either. This sounds more like a lack of confidence in the physical force you have than an accurate assessment of the respective physicality between men and women.
A basic self defense class would do a lot of good for you. Definitely look for something that’s labelled as “self defense”, and is specifically for women. It sounds like I’m joking but the ones where you kick people wearing padded crotches as hard as you can are the best ones for this, specifically.
Says who?
I don’t understand why this topic comes up cyclically and there’s a pile on of women (and trolls, most likely) bemoaning the fact that men are stronger and they’re just so helpless. So??? If a man decides to attack me you bet your ass I am not going to make it easy for him.
Scratching, biting, puking are all on the table. I don’t have to roll over and let him do what he wants, plus I can run, I can throw things at him, and I lift weights to be strong in everyday situations. Maybe I won’t be as strong as a conditioned man, but that doesn’t mean he can do what he wants to me.
Most men are so untrained and flabby it not even funny. If Bob from the office tries to fight you and doing some weights you probably will beat him. Hell even without you might beat him since he is probably all jelly muscles.
Otherwise, if anything? Weapons, taser, pepper spray, rape whistle. Heck, a man can be built like the Hulk but no man is doing well after getting a brick thrown right at head.
I fully support kicking them in their junk with every bit of energy you can muster and then run like the wind!
I did martial arts for years. Did you know that wing chun Kung Fu (the kind that Bruce Lee practiced) was developed by a woman?
I wouldn’t be over confident but knowing that you can quickly hurt someone, giving you the chance to run is a good thing.
I recommend taking self defence classes. Gives you an idea of what you could do if you needed.
Girly start lifting weights and train your body for strength and not asthetics
Take self-defense courses. It’ll help you boost your confidence.
I took a 4-hour seminar 10 years ago and I still remember a lot from it.
Some quick tips:
Men may have more natural strength than a woman but they are made up of the same mushy parts like the rest of us.
If you can’t afford a self-defense course there is plenty of free material online.
Men need to stop believing that they’re just infinitely stronger than women in all circumstances, and women also need to stop believing it about themselves. It’s just not true. Men and women are not different species. Men are (on average!) larger than women and build muscle easier. Sure. They’re still not rhinoceroses, and women aren’t fragile baby birds. They’re humans. There are plenty of women who are stronger than plenty of men.
You don’t have to beat him if you insert a finger into his eyeball.
Or stomp his balls.
Or bite off an ear or a nostril.
Or slam his head into something hard.
Seriously, one of our best defenses as women is looking helpless so we can plan and aim while they think they have the upper hand. I love doing the wide-eyed, weak woman act as soon as I can see that they don’t think I’m capable of stabbing them in the throat with a ballpoint pen.
Is it as cool as being stronger than them? Maybe not.
I do love knowing that they think I’m sweet and harmless.