First of all i’d like to apologize in advance. I am a bit tipsy, this is my first post and english is my second language.
I (30M) have some relationship issue with my girlfriend (48F). We known each other as colleagues and then friends for 2 years and we have become a couple 3 months ago. I am deeply in love with her and she makes me so happy, but every week (2 weeks at best) she comes up with a reason to be angry at me. Last time it took her 4 days. The reasons can be: i don’t love her, i don’t care for her, i’m cheating on her.
I spend almost every day with her and on good days she says that she’s never felt so loved. She knows that i don’t have much of a social life and my biggest fear is that i become like my father, who cheated on my mom.
Long story short, 3 days ago she decided that i’m cheating. She called me names, started crying, threw her phone on the floor (i think the screen is broken now) and told me as a revenge she will have sex with the guy she wanted to bang before we got together and maybe with some other people too. Then she left and i haven’t heard from her ever since.
I doubt she will go through with it but still… I just don’t know what should i do, in this 3 months i cried more than in my whole life. Our relationship would be perfect, if not for this craziness. Should i just end it, cut my losses?
Also she might experience withdrawal issues and i promised i will be by her side in the good and bad.
TL;DR: My GF keeps deciding that i’m cheating and it’s breaking me.
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This is not fixable. I would break up and find somebody a lot more stable who doesn’t invent problems or make false accusations.
Let her go. She’s 100% trash.
Yeah let her go, no one is worth all of that stress and unhappiness.
Umm, what? You have a grown woman at 48 yrs old acting like a 13 yr old girl?! Hard no. You obviously have no respect for yourself if you allow her to treat you this way.
As we get older, age differences in relationships matter less and life doesn’t always follow a path we expect.
However in addition to this, there can be contributing factors to explain why people are perpetually single into middle age. Does your girlfriend have a healthy approach to relationships? Can the problems you’re facing ever really be “solved”?