Hi, my boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) have been together for 2 years. I am from across the country but moved to his state for a job. We met online and got close really fast and ended up moving in together due to a falling out with my family. Because I am not from the state I don’t have many friends out here but I am trying to make friends. Back in February this girl started working at my boyfriend’s work, he works at a gym, and he trained her. They immediately became friends and he started telling me how cool she is and stuff. I have no problem with my boyfriend having female friends, he has other ones and i’ve never had an issue with them. At first I was happy he made a friend but they began to text 24/7. They would stay up till like 2 am texting and he would text her when we were trying to hang out and he would ignore me. When I brought it up with him he would just say that he texts everyone that much when they respond a lot. At first it didn’t bother me but then she started visiting him at work when she wasn’t working and then he would get home from work and call her on discord and they would play a game together or just talk. I normally wouldn’t mind but for some reason with her I get a pit in my stomach and I feel uncomfortable. My boyfriend will say i’m crazy or I don’t trust him when I bring it up so i’ve been trying to let it go. I don’t think he would cheat on me so it’s not even that I just feel a little weird about this particular girl. I have brought up my discomfort and it gets disregarded. My bf says he won’t be with someone who “doesn’t let him have friends.” I don’t know if I am just being dramatic or paranoid this girl texts him constantly and he drops everything to respond to her immediately. As a girl I have never texted a man in a relationship that much even if we are friends out of respect for the girlfriend. We went out with her and the two of them ended up drinking, I don’t drink, and my bf completely ignored me the whole night and would literally push me out the way to talk to her. There’s a lot more to this that I am forgetting but my bf knows I don’t really feel super comfortable with this girl and just doesn’t care or he says he didn’t do anything to make me feel like that. I just feel like my feelings are constantly ignored but only when it comes to this one girl. I am not sure what to do or if i am being overdramatic.
TL;DR I don’t really feel comfortable with my boyfriend’s coworker friend but he doesn’t seem to care about my feelings.
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So as a man who has a girl bestfriend that I met at my job. She has a bf and at the time I had a gf( our breakup had nothing to do with this friend) but we both have different jobs now and we will still text but it’s not every day or all day. I have other girls that are friends and even as a single man I don’t text them all day every day… he may not view it as a problem but to me it seems like she has a thing for him. Even if he doesn’t realize it. There’s been plenty of times where I missed signs that a girl was into me. Also if my gf had a new friend that she texted this much etc I would feel uncomfortable about it and think he was at least trying get with her.