I’ve seen this cute guy around the neighbourhood several times at various spots we both seem to like and I’d thought that we’d made some notable eye contact a few times, even initiated by him. I’d finally worked up the courage to go talk to him, but then I haven’t see him around for weeks so didn’t get the chance. I was trying to move on and meet other guys on Hinge but I was REALLY attracted to him so I just couldn’t get him off my mind. I happened to find out his name and ended up looking him up on social media.
After much deliberation I decided to just go for it and message him: I apologized for if the message came across as weird or out of the blue, but I’d seen him around a lot and had been trying to work up the courage to talk to him. I acknowledged that he may not recognize me, but if he did, I wanted to invite him to coffee with me. I told him no pressure and I understand if he’s not interested or available, but I thought I’d might as well shoot my shot.
After watching a lot of relationship advice videos I’d heard that guys really appreciate being asked out because it’s flattering and different, so it kind of gave me confidence to go for it. I’ve been told by multiple people I’m pretty, though I know I’m not going to be everyone’s type. I was prepared for a possible rejection, but he just never even replied and somehow that’s worse. Like I’m not even worth a reply after having the balls to do that.
Why do people do this? I think he must know who I am and that I’m a real person from the neighbourhood, not just someone on the internet. After someone has the courage to ask you out are people really too scared to even reply? Asking someone out is way harder than typing up a polite no and some gentle excuse if you feel so inclined. Heck just ask chatGTP if you really don’t know what to say. I just feel like so much crap right now and so embarrassed…
TL;DR
If men are flattered to be asked out, why would they not even reply?
Comments
are you very certain hes seen the message? not everyone looks at DMS if they arent active. sometimes i forget they exist. other than that, just take it as a sign he isnt interested, and maybe its a good thing, would you want to be with someone who wasn’t mature enough to respond?