I asked my bf his opinion on murder/killing

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What do you guys think about his answers on this?
So I was just telling him about a recent story of a girl who was killed from her bf, and asked him if he thinks murdering in any case is okay.

I specifically said not in the case of self defense, but in these cases as wifes or spouses are killed from their partner etc

He said that human aka men, when they get angry they don’t know what they do and don’t think further. And in some cases as cheating or when wife would steal his money or some things like that its okay if the men kills her meaning she deserves it???
While my opinion was that other than self defense killing is not okay, and you cant make ur life hell while u can just walk away…he again said you dont know what goes through their mind and there are many reasons why they get killed…his words on this are scaring me!

Comments

  1. Theunpolitical Avatar

    What advice are you looking for that you should stay with someone who thinks like this?

    If you do break it off, don’t do it alone and don’t use this as the excuse. Just let him know that it’s not working out, you want different things and be vague.

  2. Calli_Hart19 Avatar

    Any one (men or women) who thinks it’s okay to murder their spouse because they cheated or “stole” from them is out of their mind. That’s ridiculous!!

  3. Forward-Wishbone-831 Avatar

    There is no excuse for violence against women. Period. I would run far away asap and don’t look back. He seems to think there is open season on women if you piss them off enough. Leave, don’t be a statistic

  4. Designer-Chance-3590 Avatar

    OP, do what u/theunpolitical said. That’s a pretty revealing answer

  5. Actual-Deer1928 Avatar

    He’s saying he’ll murder you if he suspects you’re cheating. 

  6. Odd_Radio2219 Avatar

    Honestly, leave. Someone that holds that kind of viewpoint is dangerous.

  7. izzycopper Avatar

    Killing and murdering is illegal, but there are some instances when I’d probably agree with your BF that they’d be morally acceptable. I don’t see a moral issue with a man or woman killing their adulterous spouse. I also don’t really see a moral issue with someone killing another who has so deeply wronged them as to have destroyed their life or livelihood. I’m not saying it should be legal. Some of our laws exist to keep our society civil. But I wouldn’t necessarily have a moral issue with some killings.

    Stealing money? What are we talking here… like if I pulled $20 cash from your wallet? That’s excessive, even for me.

    And then of course there’s capitol punishment for certain crimes. If you murder someone, torture someone, or sexually abuse a child, you have forfeited you have abandoned your humanity and no longer get to live among us. I think seeing an impending doom coming in your direction is a great way to get your mind straight and make things right with your maker.

  8. stayhappystayblessed Avatar

    Not cool at all me personally I wouldn’t leave straight away but I would be doing some deep reflection on if being with someone like this is right for me. For now I would say either leave or be very vigilant around him from now on.

  9. Cjlong228 Avatar

    Honey you gotta run. That’s like an easy layup answer for anyone.

  10. fun_durian999 Avatar

    I would be very disturbed if my partner said it’s ok for a man to kill his wife if she cheats or steals. One can simply break up with someone who does those things, it is not acceptable to kill them. Your instinct that his answers are concerning is completely valid!

  11. newopty Avatar

    Run away from him. Run like the wind.

  12. Effective_Matter6264 Avatar

    His response is bizarre. Breaking up because of his comment is legitimate. Plan a safe exit with your friends.

  13. xhaustingmntlexcrsns Avatar

    Him believing killing for an emotional reason and not a physical safety reason is an absolute red flag. He does not get to be judge jury and executioner and him believing he does is extremely alarming, you should not stay with him. You do not know what other treatments he considers “deserved” because of something someone did that affected him. And killing from being angry at your partner is not something to take as a joke, you don’t know when you may set him off and he deems you “worthy of ____”

  14. lydocia Avatar

    Run far away.

    He thinks it’s justified to murder you if you cheat.

    What’s keeping him from deciding you cheated tomorrow?

  15. PenIsland_dotcum Avatar

    Lol…

    This sounded like an 85 iq conversation 

  16. NewHall2681 Avatar

    Major red flag 🟥🟥🟥

  17. Ok_Requirement_3116 Avatar

    Holy shi*. He’s going to off you if he thinks you’ve committed any of his list.

  18. ItchyCookie5150 Avatar

    OP, please leave this man. This is a horrifying response to a question like that.

  19. EndlesslyUnfinished Avatar

    you need to get away from him immediately

    His response literally screams that he would be ok with killing you if you did some slight (imagined or real) against him. He’s outright saying he is ok with killing you.

    You know that saying that goes “if someone tells you who they are, believe them”.. this applies right now.

  20. draculasacrylics Avatar

    Leave him as soon as you can.

  21. ancient_xo Avatar

    “It is forbidden to kill; therefore all murderers are punished unless they kill in large numbers and to the sound of trumpets.”

  22. RubyTx Avatar

    Get out.

    Do not walk. Run.

    He thinks he’s entitled to kill someone if he’s angry enough.

  23. Previous-Purchase-91 Avatar

    Idk man now that I have a toddler niece and someone hurt her, it would be justified in my book